Also, the cheater never expects to get caught, but once he does, he could be damned lucky if the spouse forgives him. But sooner or later, if it hits the fan, not only does he lose the spouse, but his family is likely to find out what happened too. When that happens, not only does he lose his spouse, but even his own brothers, sisters, and parents will take his spouse's side. I've seen it happen and can only imagine how humiliating it must be.
I wouldn't wish such humiliation on anyone, not even an adulterer, but justice will always find you.
Oh I wish it.
Anybody with a brain knows it's wrong to cheat on the person you claim to love or at least in a committed relationship with, and that if you break that level of trust, this is what's most likely going to happen..... if they don't want to be dragged through the wringers, lose their family, their home, their car, their security and respect from those around them..... don't cheat and keep yer damn genitals in your pants.
It's not hard to do.... keep it in your pants or break up the relationship you're currently in. Then you at least shown you have enough respect for your partner and yourself to do the right thing.
All that needs to be said in that situation is the relationship just simply died..... it happens.... but when you decide to screw around while in a committed relationship, it says something totally different.
Sure it can be a tad iffy of a situation if the relationship ended because one of you became more interested in another person.... but there is at least still some respect shown for the other person.
Besides, one of the things I never got was that if hypothetically I was single, and some girl wanted to have sex with me while still being in another relationship, dating or married, she said she loved me and wanted to be in my life, etc. etc.... how could one even believe that tripe?
If she's willing to cheat on her man with me just like that, how am I not supposed to believe she'd pull the same thing on me if we went into a relationship? Plus, if I went along with that little booty call and started a side relationship with her.... that'd give the impression that I thought the same way towards relationships as she does, and thus she shouldn't trust me to be committed either.
Maybe that's all each wants in a situation..... so be it but I never saw any need to play childish cat n' mouse games with other unsuspecting partners and faking to them that you actually give a damn about them and still love them.... all the while you're boning some dirty clam digger on the side.