Taking shoes off at peoples homes...

[Diarygirl]

LOL that's true karrie, or we hope it's true! It's just that sometimes people can pry and some may think it's not the norm to not drink socially. Just so it's not uncomfortable, I'd say, "no thanks, I don't drink." and if there's a response with "why not?" I'd say "allergies" to put an end to it right there.

 

[Diarygirl]

LOL Kreskin...that will give them reason not to want her to drink!

 

[kiwi_NZ]

That would depend upon how old she is, Kreskin.

How old do you think I am SJP? Be gentle, I could be fragile My kids sometimes tell me that they're older than me!

Can you believe that! Lil buggas

 

[kiwi_NZ]

Does that mean you like riding billy goats?

Who's Billy?

 

[kiwi_NZ]

Good evening all....just getting ready for bed and thought I'd jump on to see what was happening in the forum!
I wouldn't have a hard time telling people that I don't drink. If you want you could always say you have allergies. That will be enough for them not to ask why.
I hope you have a wonderful trip kiwi_NZ!

I'm going to have a fantastic trip and so hope to meet you too DG

 

[L Gilbert]

Billy's the horny bloke over there. *points a finger*

 

[kiwi_NZ]

Paul Whiteman S Rhythm Boys Mississippi Mud (video found on: YouTube.com) - Harry Barris Video


:lol:

Figgered this would make you feel at home, remembering the Maoris dances.

Are you being nice to me? Is this the nice you coming out?

 

[kiwi_NZ]

Billy's the horny bloke over there. *points a finger*

Bloke not goat? The word sounds similar...

Now on an average would you say Canadian men are into facial hair (lol) not not on women... I shall rephrase that..... Is facial hair the common look on Canadian men? i.e. beards, mows etc? Long hair short hair etc? What's typical?

 

[L Gilbert]

Bloke not goat? The word sounds similar...

Now on an average would you say Canadian men are into facial hair (lol) not not on women... I shall rephrase that..... Is facial hair the common look on Canadian men? i.e. beards, mows etc? Long hair short hair etc? What's typical?

lol You asked "Who's .." Who's is the shorty for "who is" Whose is the 3rd person possessive. Sp O thought you meant billy as in a name rather than the critter. lol
A variety of hair lengths and styles, from those white wannabe Jamaicans to chrome domed. Lots have cookie brushes, quite a few with goatees and Van Dyke type beards. Mine's a full beard. There are a fair number with full beards, too.

 

[SirJosephPorter]

Quoting SirJosephPorter
That would depend upon how old she is, Kreskin.

How old do you think I am SJP? Be gentle, I could be fragile kids sometimes tell me that they're older than me! you believe that! Lil buggas

I don’t know Kiwi. It depends upon if you are still young enough to have kids. Only then Kreskin’s comment will be valid.

As to how old you are, you come across as a young person. But it is difficult to tell, many old people are young at heart, they come across as young persons.

I count myself among them. I am pushing 60, but I consider myself young at heart. I am an optimist, I am hopeful about the future of the world; I think we have never had it so good. I don’t subscribe to the philosophy (which is indicative of an old age, in heart if not in physique), which says that things are going to the dogs, that the old days were good old days (I personally consider 50s to be a particularly horrible, hideous decade).

So you do come across as young, but it is difficult to tell.

 

[JLM]

:roll:Around here, people just say they don't drink alcohol.

Yep, I find "I prefer coffee" works very well.

 

[talloola]

I think just being firm about the fact that you don't drink makes more sense than lying about health problems, etc. Even the most controlling host won't pin you down and dump wine down your throat with a funnel. lol.

I agree karrie, but over the years, we have had some, who will not accept the
fact that we don't drink. (wine with meal is fine, or we share a beer on a hot day), maybe two a year.
It's amazing that some think 'not drinking' is wierd, and different, and snobby.
I just say, um, no thanks, do you have other choices, maybe a coffee, or tea or
fruit punch, but I will never make a fake excuse, as though I have a problem.
But, I have actually been enterogated as though I am wierd for not drinking,

 

[karrie]

I've seen it talloola. I have a friend who didn't drink for the longest time. She got quizzed. People can be weird about it. Many feel judged. But... that's their problem, and their social faux pas. No one thinks it's okay to react like that, and even they would probably tell you if asked in a convo like this, that it's not okay to push the issue.

I think a lot of the quizzing stems from the discomfort with them taking recreational drugs in front of someone who isn't. Kind of like making you sit outside the hot tub while they climb in. It's awkward.

 

[L Gilbert]

Yeah. We don't stick around long when that happens. "Just popped over to say "hi". Ciao".

 

[JLM]

I agree karrie, but over the years, we have had some, who will not accept the
fact that we don't drink. (wine with meal is fine, or we share a beer on a hot day), maybe two a year.
It's amazing that some think 'not drinking' is wierd, and different, and snobby.
I just say, um, no thanks, do you have other choices, maybe a coffee, or tea or
fruit punch, but I will never make a fake excuse, as though I have a problem.
But, I have actually been enterogated as though I am wierd for not drinking,

I have to agree with both you and Karrie- I drank enough for 25 years to saturate the whole block & then I decided I'd had enough as it was taking more out of me than I was getting out of it. I still drink- maybe once or twice a year and if a cold glass of red wine was offered I'd take it. That aside, there is something wrong with someone who has a compulsion for others to drink, so the best way to handle it is just to say "coffee is fine" (or tea or juice or milk) and if they ask again the best response is F*** OFF.

 

[SirJosephPorter]

cold glass of red wine was offered I'd take it.

JLM, a cold glass of red wine? Yikes. You don’t drink red wine chilled.

I drank enough for 25 years to saturate the whole block

I still drink regularly; I haven’t had my fill yet. But I like expensive stuff (expensive whiskey, cognac, liquors etc.). Since we travel abroad quite a bit, we buy most of our alcohol from the duty free shops.

 

[talloola]

I have to agree with both you and Karrie- I drank enough for 25 years to saturate the whole block & then I decided I'd had enough as it was taking more out of me than I was getting out of it. I still drink- maybe once or twice a year and if a cold glass of red wine was offered I'd take it. That aside, there is something wrong with someone who has a compulsion for others to drink, so the best way to handle it is just to say "coffee is fine" (or tea or juice or milk) and if they ask again the best response is F*** OFF.

I'm with you on that one. What I can't understand , and we have run into
it over the years is, many who drink on a regular basis, seem to think they are
the majority, they are the cool ones, and someone like myself who goes about
my business and doesn't even think of drinking on a regular basis, as a person
who is snobby, out of touch, unsociable (I am, but not unfriendly), too good for
'them, and a few others that I can't think of right now.
What is true however, and we have gone our own way because of it, is that
the two do not mix, I can't stand being around a drinking crowd, after a
certain point in the gathering, I have to leave, as the behavior, from my
'dry' point of view, is dumb, and when they are all the same, they don't know
any better, from our side of it, it is embarrassing much of the time, I have no
time for the stupid jokes, the arms around me, the hugging and slurping type
of kisses, the I love you's. Give me a break, tell me those things when you
aren't drooling, slurring, and can remember what you said the next day, and
if you can, you wouldn't have done it in the first place.
I have a nice glass of wine with my dinner every day, or, if we are going golfing,
we have it with our evening snack.
I'm the child of a chronic alchoholic, saw everything there was to see by the
time I was 12, knew all of their tricks, saw all of the shallow friends, and
other alchoholics, and grew up very tired of all the antics, and that followed
with my friends parties, throwing up, hangovers, deaths, shootings, accidents,
and some of our friends dead at a very young age.
By the time I was 21 or so, my husband , had been involved in lots of sports, and we had friends who
were more like ourselves, and drinking definitely wasn't the first thing we
had on our grocery lists each payday, like many others I had known.

 

[kiwi_NZ]

Quoting SirJosephPorter
That would depend upon how old she is, Kreskin.

How old do you think I am SJP? Be gentle, I could be fragile kids sometimes tell me that they're older than me! you believe that! Lil buggas

I don’t know Kiwi. It depends upon if you are still young enough to have kids. Only then Kreskin’s comment will be valid.

As to how old you are, you come across as a young person. But it is difficult to tell, many old people are young at heart, they come across as young persons.

I count myself among them. I am pushing 60, but I consider myself young at heart. I am an optimist, I am hopeful about the future of the world; I think we have never had it so good. I don’t subscribe to the philosophy (which is indicative of an old age, in heart if not in physique), which says that things are going to the dogs, that the old days were good old days (I personally consider 50s to be a particularly horrible, hideous decade).

So you do come across as young, but it is difficult to tell.

SJP

you're a sweetheart, I'll have to keep you on. I am absolutely young at heart and so awesome to hear you are too! You are indeed a very young sixty, way to go!

 

[JLM]

cold glass of red wine was offered I'd take it.

JLM, a cold glass of red wine? Yikes. You don’t drink red wine chilled.

I drank enough for 25 years to saturate the whole block

I still drink regularly; I haven’t had my fill yet. But I like expensive stuff (expensive whiskey, cognac, liquors etc.). Since we travel abroad quite a bit, we buy most of our alcohol from the duty free shops.

You bet the chillier the better. I know it's customary to drink red wine at room temperature, but I much prefer it chilled and there's just no sense in being too faced about it to the point you don't enjoy it. One theory I've heard about "room temperature" is that it all got started in medieval England, when room temp. was quite often about 55F.

 

[JLM]

I'm with you on that one. What I can't understand , and we have run into
it over the years is, many who drink on a regular basis, seem to think they are
the majority, they are the cool ones, and someone like myself who goes about
my business and doesn't even think of drinking on a regular basis, as a person
who is snobby, out of touch, unsociable (I am, but not unfriendly), too good for
'them, and a few others that I can't think of right now.
What is true however, and we have gone our own way because of it, is that
the two do not mix, I can't stand being around a drinking crowd, after a
certain point in the gathering, I have to leave, as the behavior, from my
'dry' point of view, is dumb, and when they are all the same, they don't know
any better, from our side of it, it is embarrassing much of the time, I have no
time for the stupid jokes, the arms around me, the hugging and slurping type
of kisses, the I love you's. Give me a break, tell me those things when you
aren't drooling, slurring, and can remember what you said the next day, and
if you can, you wouldn't have done it in the first place.
I have a nice glass of wine with my dinner every day, or, if we are going golfing,
we have it with our evening snack.
I'm the child of a chronic alchoholic, saw everything there was to see by the
time I was 12, knew all of their tricks, saw all of the shallow friends, and
other alchoholics, and grew up very tired of all the antics, and that followed
with my friends parties, throwing up, hangovers, deaths, shootings, accidents,
and some of our friends dead at a very young age.
By the time I was 21 or so, my husband , had been involved in lots of sports, and we had friends who
were more like ourselves, and drinking definitely wasn't the first thing we
had on our grocery lists each payday, like many others I had known.

I hear you, you just have to look at one segment of society - professional entertainers and look at the old ones (who are still alive to some degree)- a lot of them don't make it (to any degree)