For us it usually just means 'hey, we're not ACTUALLY thinking about killing each other"

It's a foregone conclusion that many aren't going to agree - quebec is never going to 'agree' with english canada for example. But - if everyone is getting left alone and not demanding something from someone else generally we're happy to let others be and do our own thing
Unity was highest under harper's term. That's not because harper was some great unifier or everyone 'agreed' with him by any means. He just had a solid policy of staying the hell out of people's lives and it worked. Trudeau has a bad habit of trying to weaponize one group against another.