Abortion demonstration just doesn't sound right.

Praxius

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When I knocked up my wife she was 17 and I was 22. We were pressured to have an abortion and were given so many lame ass excuses it only shored up our decision to stay together and start a family.

We've been married almost 21 years, my wife never missed any university, didn't get fat, got better jobs and promoted faster because she was a mother, I never left her and found another, we were never short of money, we had oodles of support and advice and all without any financial help from parents.

There is no such thing as bad timing or being held back in anyway shape or form. The only thing we missed out on was boozing it up friends and spending money on stupid things we didn't need.

All it took was very minor sacrifices for something that gave us more happiness and brought us closer together in ways that made the people who tried seperate us and end the pregnancy are now jealous or extremely proud of the incredible person we raised during harsh economic times. Outside pressure almost convinced us to end the life of someone who just got accepted to med school at Dalhousie and will stay in Canada to work in the rural or northern regions where service is lacking.

All the things that we were warned of never materialized and Canada gains an Ob Gyn in another few years and spend her life bring babies into the world.

The funny thing was I was to marry her older cousin and closest friend (inspired my second to work in the same industry) but her tragic death while at work with Corrections Canada bought myself and my wife together out of tragedy.

If your ever in Ottawa put a flower at the monument for Fallen Peace Officers in Ottawa for me and Patricia Mary Lynn Sharber who gave her life in the line of duty.

And that is about as personal I'm going to get on here. I hope it gives some of you a little more perspective on me and smooths some of the rough edges I like to put forth.


I'm a damn lucky guy and I owe it all to be stubborn and doing the opposite what I was pressured to do.

Way to ****ing go Gerry! We wanted more but it wasn't for lack of trying. Hats off to you.

Good for you and congrats.... but something else to take out of what you said is that pressure and people telling you what to do with your life can come from both sides of the argument.

The bottom line here is that you both made your "Choice".... you decided what you wanted to do and decided to raise your child as you saw fit, regardless of the challenges that came with that choice or what others thought or said.

That's all I support.... people having the right to choose for themselves what will happen.

With Abortion being banned or greatly restricted, nobody has a choice.... the choice is made for you, even if you'd never opt for abortion in the first place.

As I said before, I would never personally choose abortion myself, but my life is not everybody else's and my choices are not right for everyone.
 

DaSleeper

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In a seriously messed up twist, your daughter inlaw would probably have found some relief in Cannabis to settle her stomach in the first trimester. I doubt those who were handling her pregnancy there would have prescribed it, instead offering up if anything at all, drugs that do less, cause worse side effects and actually harm the baby to some extent. Ain't that messed up?

You shore you wasn't a snake oil cure all salesman in the old west in a previous life?:lol:


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JLM

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Praxius That's all I support.... people having the right to choose for themselves what will happen. With Abortion being banned or greatly restricted said:
That's just all fine and dandy BUT the object of that choice doesn't get a say. Maybe when somebody makes the decision you are a nobody and decides to drop you in the sewer you might have a change of heart!
 

mentalfloss

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That's just all fine and dandy BUT the object of that choice doesn't get a say. Maybe when somebody makes the decision you are a nobody and decides to drop you in the sewer you might have a change of heart!

Praxius is already well into his life and to kill him now would cause a lot of pain and suffering.

A fetus that has barely developed its spinal cord or nervous system wouldn't endure anything. It would be like cracking open a couple of fresh eggs and tossing them on the skillet.

And no rational human being would question a nice helping of bacon and eggs (unless they're vegans).
 

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Praxius is already well into his life and to kill him now would cause a lot of pain and suffering.

A fetus that has barely developed its spinal cord or nervous system wouldn't endure anything. It would be like cracking open a couple of fresh eggs and tossing them on the skillet.

And no rational human being would question a nice helping of bacon and eggs (unless they're vegans).

That's another way of looking at it, not sure of the validity. :smile:
 

mentalfloss

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That's another way of looking at it, not sure of the validity. :smile:

It avoids the equivocation fallacy.

Of course, comparing a fetus to an egg is also an equivocation - but for the purposes of showing the state of that 'human' at that time, the metaphor should be apt.
 

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That's just all fine and dandy BUT the object of that choice doesn't get a say. Maybe when somebody makes the decision you are a nobody and decides to drop you in the sewer you might have a change of heart!

You think a fetus is making decisions?

Praxius is already well into his life and to kill him now would cause a lot of pain and suffering.

A fetus that has barely developed its spinal cord or nervous system wouldn't endure anything. It would be like cracking open a couple of fresh eggs and tossing them on the skillet.

And no rational human being would question a nice helping of bacon and eggs (unless they're vegans).

Or muslim or jew or pro piggy.
 

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Are you killing a chicken when you make an omelet?

People who for abortions (not necessary for the health of the mother) have no problem justifying. I do have a problem (having seen pictures of a fetus and feeling one kicking) equating it with a f*****g egg! :roll:
 

mentalfloss

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People who for abortions (not necessary for the health of the mother) have no problem justifying. I do have a problem (having seen pictures of a fetus and feeling one kicking) equating it with a f*****g egg! :roll:

I think it's spine and nervous system are fully developed by then Bubba!
 

petros

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Me thinks many don't know the difference between embryo and fetus.

By 8 weeks a fetus is 50% brain of it's total mass.

8 flippin weeks.
 

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This is rich. There's no way you would give up a baby for adoption, likening it to giving a pet to the spca, but you have no problem killing that baby.

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Just read this to my wife Jenny, she just shook her head, went "yup", "another selfish bitch".

what you or your wife thinks means absolutely nothing to me, I don't know either one of you, and
as soon as the name calling begins, your credability and your wifes goes right down the toilet.

you have said many rude and ignorant things, but I have not resorted to calling you names, just
have a difference in opinion and personal decision making, you and your wife have a problem with
politness and manners and choose to make rash judgements of others without reading thoroughly,
but only by picking out a sentence and changing it to suit you, keep up the good work, you and
your wife certainly deserve each other.

when one takes a pet to the spca, then turns and walks out the door, no thought is given to where
that animal will go, AND when a new mother gives her baby away, it is very similar, just give it
away? I could never do that, then walk away continue with my happy little life, with no guarantees
at all that the 'right' people, or 'anyone' will give my child a good life, a happy home, and help
he/she grow up to be a responsible citizen, YES, there is definitely a close comparison.

I am very satisfied with my morality and my decision making on this subject, I deeply care about what
happens to unborn children, BUT in early pregnancy, I would definitely choose an abortion over giving
my child away, just like people give animals away, and don't care from that point on, not for me, I
have far too much caring in my heart to make such a frivalous decision.
 

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what you or your wife thinks means absolutely nothing to me, I don't know either one of you, and
as soon as the name calling begins, your credability and your wifes goes right down the toilet.

you have said many rude and ignorant things, but I have not resorted to calling you names, just
have a difference in opinion and personal decision making, you and your wife have a problem with
politness and manners and choose to make rash judgements of others without reading thoroughly,
but only by picking out a sentence and changing it to suit you, keep up the good work, you and
your wife certainly deserve each other.

when one takes a pet to the spca, then turns and walks out the door, no thought is given to where
that animal will go, AND when a new mother gives her baby away, it is very similar, just give it
away? I could never do that, then walk away continue with my happy little life, with no guarantees
at all that the 'right' people, or 'anyone' will give my child a good life, a happy home, and help
he/she grow up to be a responsible citizen, YES, there is definitely a close comparison.

I am very satisfied with my morality and my decision making on this subject, I deeply care about what
happens to unborn children, BUT in early pregnancy, I would definitely choose an abortion over giving
my child away, just like people give animals away, and don't care from that point on, not for me, I
have far too much caring in my heart to make such a frivalous decision.



What I see is a very uncaring and selfish decision. Since you don't want or can't keep the baby, then nobody can have it. I see it as not being about the baby, but being all about you. The justification you are using is no different than the nutcase mothers/fathers that decide that it is better to kill their "born" children because they "can't" take care of them. It's murder then, just as it's murder in what you are advocating.
 

mentalfloss

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What I see is a very uncaring and selfish decision. Since you don't want or can't keep the baby, then nobody can have it. I see it as not being about the baby, but being all about you.

Not necessarily.

I can see where taloola's coming from. It's more of a prediction about what kind of life the child will have to endure. And that child has two possible futures:

1.) Endure a life with the biological family - one that the party truly believes might be harmful to the child
2.) Endure a life with some foster family - where the uncertainty may not be worth the risk

In either case, there is no real guarantee of the quality of life for that child. And since their father has billions of sperm, and the mother could still be fertile if the abortion is early enough, then the responsible and empathetic thing to do might be to end this avenue and wait for a more appropriate time.

Ultimately, it doesn't really matter as life isn't inherently precious. But if the party that wants to abort feels that strongly that raising the child is not worth the responsibility, then they've made a good choice to avoid the burden of responsibility on themselves and on society.
 
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PoliticalNick

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I think Gerry has identified the problem exactly and you don't seem to catch on............killing kids is wrong.

I catch on a lot more than most. The issue at hand is about personal freedom of choice not about 'killing babies' as Gerry puts it.

When my wife got pregnant for the second time and the embryo was attached to and forming around her IUD we had to make a choice. We could have chosen to risk her health and taken the >1% chance of having a live birth or we could have chosen a termination (which we did). While it was a very emotional decision that was against our normal nature it was ours to make, not yours, not the doctor, not the state. I can tell you right now the resulting emotional trauma if we had been forced to take that almost 0% chance and had a stillborn that looked nothing like a baby while putting my wife at risk would be much worse than what we dealt with at the time and still do today. I am grateful that the decision was left in our hands and not forced upon us by others. So you and Gerry and the other pro-lifers can babble all you want about how wrong it is to terminate a pregnancy but that is your decision to make for yourself and not for others. You don't have to respect somebody else's decision but you have to respect their right to make the choice for themselves.

I don't need to debate about when a blastocyst or embryo becomes a human life because it doesn't matter, I believe in the personal freedom to chose for yourself and that is where it ends.

As I mentioned earlier, how about all the pro-life types step up and pay from their pockets for all the medical care and mental health care for these women you want to force to have babies and then take on the resposibility for the kids after birth. If you are not willing to do that then you are all just trying to impose your personal belief and view on others. You might as well make a law requiring someone to be christian or vegetarian because it is still imposing your personal belief on others and that is wrong.

What does religion have to do with this? It's like assuming that all religious people are against same sex marriages or that only religious people are against ssm. It's idiotic.

While I agree with you that not all pro-lifers are religious and a lot of religious people are pro-choice you have to admit that the majority of abortion opposition comes from the more regimented religious doctrines right like catholics and 7th day adventist.

I don't think "arrogant" is the correct word for someone who happens to have a different opinion. :smile:
It is when that opinion icludes you taking control of someone else's body. That is the hight of arrogance almost to the point of being a self appointed diety.

This is rich. There's no way you would give up a baby for adoption, likening it to giving a pet to the spca, but you have no problem killing that baby.

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Just read this to my wife Jenny, she just shook her head, went "yup", "another selfish bitch".
But your wife is not a selfish bitch in forcing others to live life according to her standards? It is a 2 way street, you want to outlaw abortion for selfish reasons, no matter how much you want to think its about babies, it is your personal belief and you want to impose that on others against their will and that is selfish.