it may not have been a choice technically if she was on a twist for some reason...it is beyond bizarre because she had numerous opportunities to stop...
Technically speaking, no. But choice in the context that it was not an innocent action that got out of control. She caused the situation to go out of control. Whether it was because she was mentally unstable or simply enraged (which is probably still mentally unstable), but it was not a misunderstanding.
I was detecting a general slight sentiment of "oh, there go the cops again, over reacting", got to say, in this situation, I don't think that's the case. The situation didn't go off the rails because of anything they did, at least as far as I can determine from what's been presented so far. And there's no video, so far, of the fatal shot. Reports she got out of the car, but doing what, saying what, acting how?
I firmly believe that the first choice of law enforcement should be to diffuse a situation but I'm rather hard pressed to see where they possibly could have done that here.
for some poor family seeing that particular car and it's antics; their world just turned upside down, and inside out
I don't doubt that it did.