Respect Anyone ?

Curiosity

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Isn't "Francis" the male spelling and "Frances" the female spelling?"

I've always gone by that rule and nobody has corrected me....I hope I can still
count on it to be right - although some names are without gender but it isn't meant to disrespect if we get it wrong.....I hope. Often the avatar will help too.

I moved into a gated "community" condo and it is very quiet - sometimes I envy the people enjoying a party on their patios but they usually wind up around 11pm and go inside.

I have called the police over the years on a number of occasions (college graduation the whole place becomes party central - but that is where I used to live and the police would take an hour or longer to arrive...but they always quieted them down.)

I think most people don't realize how loud they get when they have a couple of drinks and play music....

The noisiest nights are July 4th with fireworks and New Years Eve with the screechy horns and rattler thingys.

Where I am now I call it the "inmate farm" it is sooooooooooooo quiet but I'm not complaining....
 
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VanIsle

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As I get older I find one thing that really bothers me is unnecessary noise, be it screeching times or loud music. I think these are areas where common sense is often lacking. YOu see cars downtown with music at 7000 decibels eminating, what kind of common sense is that. If people are drinking and being obnoxious, let the cops deal with it, barging in there in a pissed off mood is a sure way to get hurt. Anyway, since when are inconsiderate people going to listen to reason? I think by and large the population as a whole is quite respectful, but there is an element that is really bad.
If you know your neighbours, it might be okay to go over and ask them if they can tone it down. Only if you know them to be reasonable people. When we lived in PG, my kids wanted to have a party. I was home and hubby was working. The neighbour across the street was a cop. At 9:00 PM he was out hammering on his sundeck (building something and keeping a close watch on my house as the man was an idiot). The kids lifted the stero outside as it was a lovely summer night and on the odd occasion, they would flip the noise level up a little and I would immediately turn it back down. I knew they were being a little noisy but I figured that as long as we kept it reasonable and ended it by 11:00 PM it was okay. Before 9:30 I received a call from my husband saying a complaint had come in regarding the noise at our house and he wanted to know what was going on. I said - Nothing! I told him how things were going, how I was in control and that there was also another party going on up the street (and I don't think that one was kids). I let the kids carry on having fun both indoors and out but as promised, I shut them down at a little before 11:00. Shortly after that my house was empty and the kids had gone home or elsewhere. They were good kids. All of them were old enough to drink and they did. Not one of them had too much (I was watching). They had fun. The next day, the jerk across the street made it his business to walk the whole length of the street and collect everyone's beer bottles and set them over the fence into our side yard. He was probably only anywhere from 2 - 4 years older than many of the kids that were there. The guy himself was the biggest clown and so was his wife. There is no way I could ever prove that the kids that left my house, left without a beer bottle. Even if they did, why would they drop it off a couple of houses away? It would have taken them longer than that to drink it. We also have called in noisy parties to the police office but - never once did we call before 1:00 A.M. even if we really wanted to call by midnight. If it was a regualar thing, we would have called but we never lived by anyone who partied regularly.
Our kids say we must be the party animals where we live now because, when they leave our house by 8:30 PM or earlier, every other house in here has their lights off. We've gone for walks a couple of times in the past few days and we leave the house about 9:45 PM. Last night my husband wanted to just walk around the complex. It is a rather large area and he felt he would like to stay reasonably close to home because he had stepped off a ladder and kind of hurt his hip doing so. He thought it might get painful and he would want to be close to home if he didn't want to walk. I told him that I didn't think we could do that unless we didn't talk. It's so quiet in here that our talking alone would probably disturb the residents.
It's hubby's birthday on Saturday and I have rented the clubhouse so that I can have the family over with ease. We certainly have the room here in the house but there we can do more and clean-up is easier. I wonder how late we can party?? :lol:
 

Curiosity

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Thanks TenPenny

It's always great for my memory decline to have anecdotal reminders! I wish I had a teacher as helpful as the one you wrote about!
 

VanIsle

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I've never seen it any other way. I just naturally assumed that Francis here is masc.
No - TenPenny is correct. That is the difference between the two. JLM you know Francis. He is BCProudCanadian. None of us made a secret of who we were when we came here.
 

AnnaG

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Well it's not a bed that i made. I was brought up to treat others with common courtesy. i was taught to believe that my right to do what I want ends where theirs begin. I might want to play music and party until all hours but because I live amongst others, I have to consider what their needs are.
and guess what - we brought up our children to do the same. I don't expect anything from society that I don't expect from myself.
I agree, it is not a bed that you made, I made, Pete the Plumber made, Ellen the Electrician made, etc. It is the bed that we all made. We form society. Society is a reflection of the people that it consists of. :) Fortunately we have a society that isn't too bad .... yet.
 

JLM

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I agree, it is not a bed that you made, I made, Pete the Plumber made, Ellen the Electrician made, etc. It is the bed that we all made. We form society. Society is a reflection of the people that it consists of. :) Fortunately we have a society that isn't too bad .... yet.

Which just gave me a thought (second one today) maybe the human animal is the only species whose behaviour isn't predictable.
 

AnnaG

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Which just gave me a thought (second one today) maybe the human animal is the only species whose behaviour isn't predictable.
Not even close. There are quite a few species that are unpredictable.
 

JLM

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Did you say that Francis was BCProudCanadian??? Nope

Sorry, the original question appeared to be if he was male or female and I just confirmed that he had the male spelling so I always took him to be male. Is "BCProudCanadian" another moniker he uses?
 

AnnaG

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But at least they are predictably unpredictable.............like a four legged skunk. :smile:
Then they are definitely worthy of respect as such. Or at least a measure of caution. lol
 

Francis2004

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Isn't "Francis" the male spelling and "Frances" the female spelling?"

I've always gone by that rule and nobody has corrected me....I hope I can still
count on it to be right - although some names are without gender but it isn't meant to disrespect if we get it wrong.....I hope. Often the avatar will help too.

I moved into a gated "community" condo and it is very quiet - sometimes I envy the people enjoying a party on their patios but they usually wind up around 11pm and go inside.

I have called the police over the years on a number of occasions (college graduation the whole place becomes party central - but that is where I used to live and the police would take an hour or longer to arrive...but they always quieted them down.)

I think most people don't realize how loud they get when they have a couple of drinks and play music....

The noisiest nights are July 4th with fireworks and New Years Eve with the screechy horns and rattler thingys.

Where I am now I call it the "inmate farm" it is sooooooooooooo quiet but I'm not complaining....

That's right Curio.. Francis is the boy version..

Many years ago, I heard a teacher say, 'an I for the guys, and a curl for the girls' as a way to remember Francis/Frances.

Hey I like that TenPenny.. :)

No - TenPenny is correct. That is the difference between the two. JLM you know Francis. He is BCProudCanadian. None of us made a secret of who we were when we came here.

Yes VI, I explained in the "What does your Handle ( Nick Name ) Mean" but I have no idea where that thread is now.. In any case it was in honour of my son and the year of his birth.. And you are correct in that I changed from BCProudCanadian to this one.. No secret there..
 

Francis2004

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Sorry, the original question appeared to be if he was male or female and I just confirmed that he had the male spelling so I always took him to be male. Is "BCProudCanadian" another moniker he uses?

JLM, BCProudCanadian was my other name on Canada.com only.. I do not use it anywhere else and have not in years since they basically shut it down..
 

unclepercy

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So you have sissy cops? That's what I thought I heard. You need to send your cops down to Texas to train with the Dallas Police, where a cop is only one step down from a Navy Seal with a Master's Degree. Honest - most cops here do have Master's Degrees, and they are all trained by the Dallas Police whether they work in the city or not. (only one training facility in the area)

Of course, that "out-of-state" / "out-of-country" surcharge will eat you alive, but I promise it will be worth it. Once you get a fair number trained, you'll have an example to go by.

A tazer - LOL - it's a Texas pea shooter. :roll:

Uncle

I've often thought there is a right time for a tazer....

Cops here would prefer not to go face to face with a crowd of stoned-up partiers. That always gets messy. Busting the left-overs means lots less paperwork.