The criminal justice system's emphasis on executions and the inevitible media coverage often create an impression that the much sought after resolution will come with the prisoner's execution, but the death penalty keeps the case alive for years, forcing the family to endure numerous appeals and parole board meetings. When the execution date arrives, if viewing the execution does not bring about the healing or closure expected, the family members may become even more skeptical about the healing process. Watching violence does not likely bring about healing. "We're talking about revenge, and it's not clear to me that revenge changes one's long term ability to deal with loss," stated one psychiatrist.[SIZE=-2]
[14][/SIZE] "Every culture has a different way of mourning, but witnessing executions isn't one of them."[SIZE=-2]
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The vengeance offered by allowing families to view the execution also ignores the reality that victims often seek a meaning to their victimization, not revenge. "Healing has to be bigger and better than reducing ourselves to participating in gruesome acts."[SIZE=-2]
[16][/SIZE] Some family members have found healing through reconciliation. Brooks Douglass experienced a sense of satisfaction after meeting with George Ake, the other man convicted of killing his parents.[SIZE=-2]
[17][/SIZE] Because Ake showed genuine remorse, Douglass expressed his forgiveness.[SIZE=-2]
[18][/SIZE] "I felt a real closeness to him. We've been trapped in a foxhole together for all these years."[SIZE=-2]
[19][/SIZE] Paul Stevens, the father of a murder victim, now ministers to death row inmates at Eddyville Prison in Kentucky.[SIZE=-2]
[20][/SIZE] He found forgiveness allowed him to pay tribute to his daughter. Stevens described his transformation: "[h]ate absorbed every day of my life until I started talking to the inmates at the prison. One trip to death row and I was hooked, I couldn't quit. I'm still going eleven years later."[SIZE=-2]
[21][/SIZE] Other family members of murder victims have sought to abolish the very form of punishment that the state offers them as consolation. A murder victim's daughter-in-law formed a group opposed to the death penalty, reasoning, "[h]ow could we stand as murder victims, in our pain and sorrow, and give it to someone else's family as well?"[SIZE=-2]
[22][/SIZE] Offended by the state's offer of retribution, Marrietta Yeager, whose daughter was abducted and murdered during a family camping trip, stated "[t]o say an execution of some malfunctioning individual would help me heal insults the memory of my little girl. She is worthy of a more noble, honorable, and beautiful memorial."[SIZE=-2]
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