How far would you go to convince someone in your family to Quit Smoking?

SirJosephPorter

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I vote with SJP on this one. Smoke if you want to, but not in my house, not in my car, and there was a time when I'd have said not around my children, but they're both in their 20s now and can make their own rules. You can't make anyone stop, all you can do is express concern for their health, suggest they get help with quitting (but not often, that'll just irritate them), and make rules about territory you control. Beyond that it's none of your business.

Not only that Dexter, but I can think of instances where I would positively encourage somebody to smoke.

Suppose my friend has incurable cancer and has only six months to live. He says that he gets some pain relief if he smokes. I would buy him cigarettes by myself, to help alleviate his pain. And even if he just wants to smoke for enjoyment, why not? He has only six months to live, what more damage is smoking going to do to him?
 

karrie

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I've clung to my father and cried until his shirt was soaked. I've lectured and demanded and cajoled and begged. Not one thing I did could magically chase his addiction away. Actually, giving it attention seemed to just reinforce it. It wasn't until he'd gone a spell with no one nagging him about it that one day he just quit, on his own terms. Which, btw., is the only quitting that seems to work.

I think the 'rules' help alot. In modern society, smoking around kids, in houses, etc., is a no-no. It makes that 5 minutes standing in the cold watching the grandkids play through the window a bit more thoughtful than a smoke was in the past I'd guess.

Refusing to see someone unless they quit smoking... I highly would not recommend that. If it were me, I'd assume you don't truly give two ****s about me, or else you'd have me around and let me sneak off for 'a walk', and keep an open dialogue about how much I matter to you. Refusing to have someone around your kids because they are a smoker, smacks of you wanting an image, an ideal, around rather than a flawed human.
 

JLM

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Not only that Dexter, but I can think of instances where I would positively encourage somebody to smoke.

Suppose my friend has incurable cancer and has only six months to live. He says that he gets some pain relief if he smokes. I would buy him cigarettes by myself, to help alleviate his pain. And even if he just wants to smoke for enjoyment, why not? He has only six months to live, what more damage is smoking going to do to him?

Might reduce his time to five months..............:lol:
 

Curiosity

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True. But those are mostly extremely heavy smoker's lungs. Maybe smoking less or infrequently would be a better approach if cold turkey isn't possible?

I apologize - I was being sarcastic - there are very few methods for success to "try and get someone to quit".

The desire to wean off tobacco - an insidiously addictive substance - is strictly a personal journey one must take alone - and it is a rough one - often with many starts and stops along the way until the body itself begins to rebel and then fear (and common sense) takes over.

I applaud the courage some people have had to use to quit....and weep over some of my beloved friends who still smoke.....which to me means my time with them may be shorter than necessary and there is nothing I can do.

Nagging never works. It's a sigularly individual decision.
 

Praxius

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You can always have a set of these photos enlarged and post them around your house....
photos of lungs from smoking - Google Search

They toss them on all our packs of smokes in this country and take up like 50% of the entire face of the package on both sides...... it's not like smokers don't see these pictures everyday, nor does it seem to stop people from smoking.

Sample of Canadian Packs:
 

JLM

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I probably would say to them I will not see you ever again unless you stopped smoking

That would be very intelligent :lol::lol::lol: What right do you have to dictate what your elders do? Is it a threat you are really prepared to follow through on? You should keep things in proper perspective, we're not talking about chronic pedaphilia here, just a bad habit.
 

karrie

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From here on out I'm gonna refuse to associate with any of my family who eat too much salt, drink too much alcohol, or imbibe in fast food. The healthrisk taking mo-fos!!!
 

Chiliagon

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smoking is a habit yes but it is dangerous to the lives of anyone that lives around them on a daily basis.

I don't wanna have health issues because of it. and I CERTAINLY don't want my children to have any health issues either..
 

JLM

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From here on out I'm gonna refuse to associate with any of my family who eat too much salt, drink too much alcohol, or imbibe in fast food. The healthrisk taking mo-fos!!!

Or chew gum or eat sunflower seeds and spit out the shells............:lol::lol:
 

karrie

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smoking is a habit yes but it is dangerous to the lives of anyone that lives around them on a daily basis.

I don't wanna have health issues because of it. and I CERTAINLY don't want my children to have any health issues either..

So don't let them smoke around you. That's pretty simple. I don't know a single person who has had to fight in the last 10 years to keep someone from smoking on them.
 

JLM

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smoking is a habit yes but it is dangerous to the lives of anyone that lives around them on a daily basis.

I don't wanna have health issues because of it. and I CERTAINLY don't want my children to have any health issues either..

This is one of these emotional issues that is mainly a matter of degree. If you are immersed in cigarette smoke 24/7, then yes, in all likelihood it is going to lead to health issues - getting a whiff of smoke once in awhile isn't going to harm you. Getting dirty can be unhealthy too, I suppose, but are you going to stop the kid from playing in the sand box or making mud pies? Anyone who is really all that concerned about cigarette smoke should not be walking the streets without their gas masks to protect them from auto exhausts. Cars are ten times as deadly as cigarettes but who is going to ban them? Let's not get hypocritical about the subject.............:lol:
 

AnnaG

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You want to smoke, go right ahead. No smoking in my car, my house, or my office.

Other than that, do whatever the hell you want to do. I don't plan to kiss you, so I don't care.
Bump.

So don't let them smoke around you. That's pretty simple. I don't know a single person who has had to fight in the last 10 years to keep someone from smoking on them.
Bumping this, too.
I don't like people smelling like dirty old ashtrays, but I realise that the odor isn't going to leap off them and throttle me to death. They can even smoke beside me if they like, as long as they don't blow it at me.
That being said, firefighters get pretty rank sometimes. Not a biggie; shower and a change of clothes fixes that.
 

JLM

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To each his own- I like the smell of smoke, kind of makes me reminisce about old days sitting around the campfire. :lol::lol:
 

AnnaG

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We still go camping and campfire smoke smells nothing like tobacco smoke. lol Is your nose ok?