SJP
So lets take a critical look at your trip into the future based upon your son being molested at age 13
1st - People who have been molested suffer many emotional upheavals - Guilt blaming themselves - blaming themselves for not fighting back - blaming themselves for being weak - - Remorse as they know this person will probably do it again -
So you are now faced with a 13 year old boy who has Changed dramatically - will not talk etc - You can try as hard as you want but many keep this to themselves for years if not decades
So your son - and stats show this is probable - will turn to drugs, alcohol, crime - will become abusive in the same way that he was abused.
Stats also show a substantial number young - from drugs to suicide and other illness usually associated with and coming from the original abuse -
So you and you son sit down and he is age 46 - married with kids - they have had a terrible home life -- the son had finally sought help and was dealing with this -
Then your Grandchild comes forward and tells you that your son her father molested her-
Possible outcomes -
Again the remorse sets in - he could be sent to prison or even kill himself.
All the above are the ramifications from one person being ,molested or raped -
Lastly - Drop the last 2 points - possible outcomes - and you do not know how you would react if that person was let free on a technicality - Seeing the harm caused - Stating you do know is rare as most people talk one way but react another. This observation is based upon you watching your son go thru personal hell along with his family for 33 years and being completely helpless - Have you ever been in a situation where you were completely helpless?
You are going on a wild goose chase here, that is not what we are talking about here. In this case, there is no evidence that the child resorted to drug, alcohol, crime. She did not commit suicide; hang herself or anything like that.
In this case, as far as we know, the victim is leading a normal life. So what you are talking about does not apply in this case.
And indeed, if things had been as you suggested, she probably would not want to forgive and forget, she would want to extract revenge upon him for ruining her life. That is not the case here.
You are talking apples and oranges.
I though am sure of one thing - There are people on this forum that if someone raped their child they would exact retribution - and most of them are smart enough not to get caught.
Killing is easy - Not getting caught & convicted is the hard part
Don’t you believe it. Prisons are full of criminals who thought they were smart enough to outwit the law, were too smart to get caught, only to receive a rude shock and end up in prison.
And you are right, killing is easy. It takes a strong willed man not to kill in such a situation. A weak willed man will indeed take a gun, shoot the pedophile, go to prison for life and cause untold amount of misery and grief to his family (most of all to the victim of the abuse).
What law, if the law cannot help you then you have every right to take the law in your own hands. (called exercising your rights) Nothing selfish about it, the rodent had his day in court, was convicted and sentenced, then escaped. It would be justified to hire a bounty hunter to bring him back. Now a pitiful tiny country can offer him asylum from that conviction, they are no better than he is in my eyes, guess child rape has a statute of limitations there. (When the child grows up the charges are dropped nice law to support) :roll:8O
Now you are shifting ground, ironsides. Now you are talking of hiring a bounty hunter to bring him to USA. Previously you said that you would personally kill the vermin.
If you can hire a bounty hunter, that would make sense. I specifically asked you if all else fails, you would personally kill him (as some posters here have claimed they would), to which you replied yes. And I maintain that that is an act of incredible selfishness. In order to satisfy your hunger for revenge, you will be putting your family and your loved ones through untold amount of grief, misery, pain and suffering.
that expression 'forgive and forget' is just that, an expression, the truth is, people never forget, but they
do forgive.
I quite agree. It may be difficult to forget, but one must forgive, for one's own peace of mind, if for nothing else. Forgiveness gies you closure and enables you to move on, to get on with your life. And sometimes forgiving helps you forget.
You speak of selfishness at the same time you defend Polanski's own selfishness?? :-?
I don't defend Polanski's anything. I never justified what he did. My point is that the due process took its course and it is over. Maybe the process did not work this time, but no process is going to work 100% of the time. Miscarriages of justice do occur from time to time, in any system.
Now it is time to move on. Law has spoken and the law says he is not coming to USA.