Men's Rights?

feronia

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Andrew I wholeheartedly agree that both father and mother have rights. In my opinion if both parents sit down and they decide together that they don't want the child, so be it. If the mother decides she wants the child and he doesn’t, again, so be it. The mother can sign papers stating the father has no responsibilities to the child. Yes contraceptives fail but both parties have thier rights upheld especially in a court of law if it comes to that. I'm not talking about to irresponsible people who didn't use contraceptives. I'm talking about two responcible people that came into a situation by way of a malfunction of a contraceptive.
 

Zzarchov

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wait tracey..

What part of Sex Ed was that he missed? The parts where condoms are fail about 1 times in 100 (or the average sex occured during a 1 year period between a couple) or did you mean something else?

The only way to ensure no pregnancy is really to not have sex, and unless this is rape, that is the womans choice equally.
 

tracy

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Andrew said:
Hardy-har-har...Of course they know the sex ed part of it, but you do put your faith in the birth control, and when that fails, both parties should have a choice. I have never said he should force her either way, but he should still have a choice. If she chooses to keep the baby (fetus), he should have the choice to be a father or not. That is a basic human right.
Having a father is a basic human right. It's the child's right to receive support from both its biological parents other than in the case of adoption. Why should a man who knowingly risked creating a child have his rights supercede those of the only person who truly had no choice in the matter?

Andrew said:
Well, looking back is 20/20. Good for her. It is not as easy to track down people as you think, especially with today's transient population. There has to be a more regulated way, as opposed to a guy getting lucky enough to find his ex. It is good that he can get a DNA test.
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What more regulated way would you suggest?


Andrew said:
There are cases in the USA, where a DNA test has shown a guy is not the kids father, but he still has to pay child support. How crazy is that?

Also in China, citizens can now ask for DNA testing, and it is providing huge concern. The problem is, fathers are getting themselves and their 3, 4 , 5 year old and older kids tested, and 20% of all tests show the guy is not actually the father of the child. So 1 in 5 kids is not the child of the guy, which, as you could very well understand, is having a huge impact on the society.

It may be a little crazy. I do feel sorry for a child when a man raised him as his own for years only to challenge paternity when things sour with the mother.
 

tracy

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Zzarchov said:
wait tracey..

What part of Sex Ed was that he missed? The parts where condoms are fail about 1 times in 100?

Yes, that the only way to be 100% sure to avoid pregnancy is to avoid vaginal intercoarse unless you've been surgically sterilized. It isn't more complicated than that.

Zzarchov said:
The only way to ensure no pregnancy is really to not have sex, and unless this is rape, that is the womans choice equally.

Yes it is. I've never said it wasn't. That doesn't change the fact that the woman is biologically in control of childbearing after conception or that any child born has the right to support from both parents. The time for men to exercise their CHOICE in childbearing is when they choose to have sex. Women get make that choice AND they get to decide on abortion or not. That may seem unfair to men, but you have to admit it also carries a lot of downsides. I've worked high risk L&D and NICU long enough to see some REALLY bad outcomes and it's never the father that has to deal with the physical aspects of childbirth.
 

feronia

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Tracy I don't disagree with you that the woman has all the biological choices. What I am saying is that if two people created a life using responsible contraceptives then morally and legally the man has a choice also. If she chooses the child and he doesn't then papers can be drawn to relieve him of his responsibilities. She has the right to raise the child on her own.
 

tracy

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feronia said:
Tracy I don't disagree with you that the woman has all the biological choices. What I am saying is that if two people created a life using responsible contraceptives then morally and legally the man has a choice also. If she chooses the child and he doesn't then papers can be drawn to relieve him of his responsibilities. She has the right to raise the child on her own.

The problem I have with that is what about the child (remember, the child is the only person in this equation who had no choices)? The child has a right to support from both biological parents unless they both agree to place that child for adoption. A man doesn't have the right to abandon a child he created any more than a woman has the right to prevent the father from having a relationship with their child because once a child is born his or her rights become paramount.
 

feronia

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Children have the right to be wanted. That is what makes a child healthy and happy. Having a begrudging father around isn't healthy or a child’s choice.
 

tracy

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His begrudging father doesn't need to hang around if he chooses not to. The very least he has to do is help with the material needs of his child. That's the child's legal right.
 

feronia

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Maybe not for long. There are cases in courts being decided. Justice is blind and in most courtrooms equality is law. Basically their going to put to the test the new axiom what's good for the gander is good for the goose.
 

tamarin

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Just as long as men's rights, women's rights and children's rights defer to taxpayers' rights. I can live with that.
 

tracy

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feronia said:
Maybe not for long. There are cases in courts being decided. Justice is blind and in most courtrooms equality is law. Basically their going to put to the test the new axiom what's good for the gander is good for the goose.

I think it will be a sad day if our country decides that children have no rights to support. They have no choice in who creates them and are the only blameless parties in the goose-gander drama. Anyone unwilling to support his flesh and blood is a sorry excuse for a man IMO.
 

tamarin

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And it's also a sorry excuse for a government and a society, one that cannot enforce such support. The Ontario government's 'enforcer' The Family Responsibility Office recently admitted it had record arrears.
Brutal, brutal incompetence.
 

feronia

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tracy said:
feronia said:
Maybe not for long. There are cases in courts being decided. Justice is blind and in most courtrooms equality is law. Basically their going to put to the test the new axiom what's good for the gander is good for the goose.

I think it will be a sad day if our country decides that children have no rights to support. They have no choice in who creates them and are the only blameless parties in the goose-gander drama. Anyone unwilling to support his flesh and blood is a sorry excuse for a man IMO.

Tracy its difficult to comment to your posts when you change the entire content.

I believe this was a lighthearted response to which I replied, of course.

edit: It was a humorous comment about taxpayers rights being utmost important.
 

tracy

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feronia said:
tracy said:
feronia said:
Maybe not for long. There are cases in courts being decided. Justice is blind and in most courtrooms equality is law. Basically their going to put to the test the new axiom what's good for the gander is good for the goose.

I think it will be a sad day if our country decides that children have no rights to support. They have no choice in who creates them and are the only blameless parties in the goose-gander drama. Anyone unwilling to support his flesh and blood is a sorry excuse for a man IMO.

Tracy its difficult to comment to your posts when you change the entire content.

I believe this was a lighthearted response to which I replied, of course.

edit: It was a humorous comment about taxpayers rights being utmost important.

I didn't edit my whole post. It was tamarin's above mine that was about taxpayers. It's still there 8) I assume that's what you were saying "Of course" to right?