ewh
For goodness sake, being ".gay is an insult??" Is being black, or having blue eyes also consider an insult??
I'm bisexual, and have tons of gay friends. I'm a huge supporter of gay rights. But I find it offensive when people sit around and try to fill in the blanks about someone else's life in ways that they can't possibly corroberate. It's not the accusation of homosexuality that's insulting, it's the issue of sitting around saying 'in hindsight, we've decided this trait could mean this person was _____', and knowing that the telephone game that was history can then easily make them out to be someone they were not.
I also find it offensive that people would imply that the only reason a man would be moved by the death he saw, was if he was lover to the person killed. It speaks poorly of men's mental and emotional states to think that seeing a friend blown to pieces, having to scoop him into a sandbag to bury him, might not be traumatic enough, without there being a sexual agenda to his emotional response.