How far would you go to convince someone in your family to Quit Smoking?

[Chiliagon]

obvious question: What would you do and how far would you go to make someone quit?

I know at this point that I will not let my mother around my child (when it happens) unless she stops.

There are a lot of things that I could possibly do but it's more of a matter of actually doing them.

 

[JLM]

obvious question: What would you do and how far would you go to make someone quit?

I know at this point that I will not let my mother around my child (when it happens) unless she stops.

There are a lot of things that I could possibly do but it's more of a matter of actually doing them.

Not too far and for several reasons. People read obituaries and from time to time see a friend or relative die a painful death from heart and artery disease or emphysema, so if they can't make the connection, nagging isn't going to help. On the flip side, in most cases it takes a lot of cigarette smoke to kill you. We all grew up riding in cars where the air was thick with smoke, so if a kid gets a puff of smoke in the face two or three times a week, it's not the end of the world. Smoking 30 or 40 cigs a day for 30 or 40 years in most cases is detrimental. Smoking 2 or 3 cigarettes a day is probably no worse than eating a big Mac. I smoke 4 cigarillos a day and that is probably not good, but I'll probably die of something. The obsession against smoking started out as being a good thing, but now it's reached the point of being ridiculous. I don't need to be sitting on a park bench 100 yards from the nearest person smoking a cigarillo and have some A$$HOLE telling me I can't do that- especially while there's probably 100 crack heads in the same park.................:lol:

 

[Chiliagon]

well, I don't agree with you. sorry.

 

[JLM]

well, I don't agree with you. sorry.

That's the beauty of these forums, you can disagree with me all you like and you don't have to be sorry and I'm not going to dislike you for disagreeing. I just like to see things kept in context.

 

[TenPenny]

You want to smoke, go right ahead. No smoking in my car, my house, or my office.

Other than that, do whatever the hell you want to do. I don't plan to kiss you, so I don't care.

 

[Praxius]

Nothing at the moment

As TenPenny pretty well laid it out.... unless it's in my vehicle, in my home or around my children, it's none of my business or anybody else's what they do.

Since I already smoke, I don't care if someone smokes in my home or if I had a vehicle, because I already would be smoking..... and since I don't have children at the moment, it is of no concern.

And if I am at their home, I have no say how much they smoke.... if you don't like it, don't visit them and be an anti-social jerk.

 

[JLM]

You want to smoke, go right ahead. No smoking in my car, my house, or my office.

Other than that, do whatever the hell you want to do. I don't plan to kiss you, so I don't care.

Who p*ssed in your corn flakes this morning? Lighten up there sweetie. :lol::lol::lol:

 

[TenPenny]

Who p*ssed in your corn flakes this morning? Lighten up there sweetie. :lol::lol::lol:

You're the one pizzing and moaning about being allowed to smoke.
I just said go ahead, I don't care.

 

[VanIsle]

You cannot force a person to quit smoking. To stop your Mom from seeing your children is punishing her but you are also punishing your children. You can ask her not to smoke in your house or near your children. You can also ask her to refrain from smoking just before she comes in if you have a baby that she will be holding. The smoke will be in her clothes. The more you bug her, the more she'll smoke. Be gentle but firm regarding no smoking in your house or around the children and she may just end up making the choice you hope for. Be forceful and you all lose.

 

[SirJosephPorter]

I wouldn’t do anything at all to stop someone from smoking. This is a free country, people can smoke if they want. However, I would not let them anywhere near my kids (assuming I have underage kids, once they become of age, it is up to them). When they visit my house, of course they can’t smoke, ours is a smoke free house.

Other than that, I don’t think I would do anything.

 

[JLM]

You cannot force a person to quit smoking. To stop your Mom from seeing your children is punishing her but you are also punishing your children. You can ask her not to smoke in your house or near your children. You can also ask her to refrain from smoking just before she comes in if you have a baby that she will be holding. The smoke will be in her clothes. The more you bug her, the more she'll smoke. Be gentle but firm regarding no smoking in your house or around the children and she may just end up making the choice you hope for. Be forceful and you all lose.

Absolutely- as soon as you TELL a person they can't do something, it just makes them all the more determined to show you they can.
Another point, what is more poisonous? Cigarette smoke or rhetoric against certain political or religious groups?

 

[VanIsle]

JLM I think my only response to that would be that the rhetoric against political or religious groups, probably won't kill you. Cigarettes have a better chance of doing just that.

 

[JBeee]

Every time I light up....about 3 or 4 times an hour, I demand my wife and child leave the house ie go out-side (for the duration) both summer AND winter months.:wav:

 

[JLM]

JLM I think my only response to that would be that the rhetoric against political or religious groups, probably won't kill you. Cigarettes have a better chance of doing just that.

Yep, more directly for sure. :smile::smile:

 

[petros]

Every time I light up....about 3 or 4 times an hour, I demand my wife and child leave the house ie go out-side (for the duration) both summer AND winter months.:wav:

Yeah and they can put the dog out at the same time.

How does the dog keep catching on fire anyway?

 

[JBeee]

The dogs`not on fire, silly!
Thats just cigarette smoke accumulated in it`s fur. Every time we pat him, little puffs of blue smoke curl into the air. Fido is not complaining, thank goodness.:lol:

Yeah and they can put the dog out at the same time.

How does the dog keep catching on fire anyway?

 

[petros]

The dogs`not on fire, silly!
Thats just cigarette smoke accumulated in it`s fur. Every time we pat him, little puffs of blue smoke curl into the air. Fido is not complaining, thank goodness.:lol:

What is his name?

Come heeeere Marlboro. Atta boy. Shake a yellow paw.

 

[JBeee]

Big Yeller.

What is his name?

Come heeeere Marlboro. Atta boy. Shake a yellow paw.

 

[shadowshiv]

obvious question: What would you do and how far would you go to make someone quit?

I know at this point that I will not let my mother around my child (when it happens) unless she stops.

There are a lot of things that I could possibly do but it's more of a matter of actually doing them.

To be honest, nothing you do will really make a difference whether or not a person will quit smoking. The only one that can do that is the smoker themselves. I speak from experience, as my father used to smoke and no matter what we said or did, he continued to smoke. It took him waking up in the morning and coughing so severely that we thought his lungs would come flying out of his lungs before he tried to stop(he has now been smoke-free for over 10 years)!

I sincerely hope that your mother finds the willpower to do so as well.

 

[Dexter Sinister]

I vote with SJP on this one. Smoke if you want to, but not in my house, not in my car, and there was a time when I'd have said not around my children, but they're both in their 20s now and can make their own rules. You can't make anyone stop, all you can do is express concern for their health, suggest they get help with quitting (but not often, that'll just irritate them), and make rules about territory you control. Beyond that it's none of your business.