Can you handle straight talk?

[DaSleeper]

Yep, people excel in the areas they are interested in. Some excel in areas they are not because it's a prerequisite to better things they want. Some people don't know how to study effectively (of which I'm probably one) There are other factors that contribute to intelligence- I've never regarded myself as being exceptionally intelligent but one asset I had as a young person was an almost flawless memory, now I can't remember what I did two days ago LOL As far as I'm concerned wisdom is much more important than intellect.

You know what happens to your memory as you get older?

I explained it to my superintendent about amonth before I retired.....when he wanted me to train on a new piece of machinery that had just been installed and which I had just started (It was actualy his sneaky way to get me to train others, because you can refuse to train others but not to get trained yourself)

Anyway I told him that the human brain is like a computer hard drive (They didn't make them too big back then):smile:
I also told him that at my age, the hard drive was getting pretty near full, and in orther to learn something new...I would have to delete something else;-) By then he was listening intently wondering where I was going

Now what if I delete something important like I'm retiring next month and don't need no bloody training...

He left my work station and I never heard about it again:lol:

 

[karrie]

If someone tells you what they think regardless of it being bad or not, do you take it seriously.

Say for example

My friend hates the world and i told him he needs to calm down and relax. He gets angrier and annoyed and asks me to leave. He cant handle straight talk in my opinion

If my friend tells me im a hyper lunatic and i listen to him and realize. Whoa iam a hyper lunatic what can i do to improve myself? Thats being able to take straight talk.

Would you agree with this? And how would you react, if someone told you want they think of you?

I feel like that chili kid, with these what do you think threads. Whoa

Perhaps his anger/frustration stems from the fact that you're telling him to change something which few people can change, the way he reacts and sees the world. That's pretty huge. Telling someone to calm down and relax is like telling someone not to have their feelings hurt. You can't change a reaction that simply. If I sat you down and said I'd like you to change your personality and world view, chances are you'd be pissed too, no matter how well you take criticism over individual aspects of said personality.

 

[Johnnny]

If I sat you down and said I'd like you to change your personality and world view, chances are you'd be pissed too, no matter how well you take criticism over individual aspects of said personality.

Whether or not the person changes whatever. But dont cry like a baby when someone tells you something. Is all i say.

If some people went through all the **** i went through in my life. Most people would have already put a bullet in their heads. People have told me how to act since day 1 and ive always had an open mind about it and ive always taken steps to better myself. Im the kid of person who loves feedback whether negative or positive.

And ive had alot of sit downs in my life karrie and ive never snapped on anyone for saying what they observed even if it is true.

If you cant handle what other people think than theres a problem. Some people need to get out of their shell cause they wil only isolate themselves from the rest of us. Let them isolate themselves if its the best thing for them.

 

[lone wolf]

A friend - long suffering (?) and seldom far from some sort of trouble caught the label last time he was a guest of the bars - told me ADHD means he gets on a different track to get there an his Ass gets Dere 'fore his Head Does

 

[karrie]

*shrugs* It seems to me that you're trying to excuse your own actions, which may have been a bit harsh, by instead putting the responsibility all on him. There is a time and a place and a way in which to tell someone what you think, but, typically, if they take offense, you've chosen wrong. Trust me, I've had to face up to that in past.

 

[Johnnny]

A friend - long suffering (?) and seldom far from some sort of trouble caught the label last time he was a guest of the bars - told me ADHD means he gets on a different track to get there an his Ass gets Dere 'fore his Head Does

oh my god your a ****ing asshole get away from me leave me alone i dont want to hear it


lol

It seems to me that you're trying to excuse your own actions, which may have been a bit harsh, by instead putting the responsibility all on him.

Telling someone to calm down isnt being harsh by a long shot

 

[karrie]

Telling someone to calm down isnt being harsh by a long shot

No, it doesn't sound it on the surface, you're right.

But, saying 'calm down' also doesn't qualify as 'straight talk' in any situation I've ever seen, so I suspect there's more to the story

 

[Johnnny]

But, saying 'calm down' also doesn't qualify as 'straight talk' in any situation I've ever seen, so I suspect there's more to the story

oh there is but the bulk of the story was already written before i came into the picture. Mabye some people are loose cannons and mabye a shrink should be lined up for the said person