Talloola thank you for getting to the point. I was a little shy to prod.
I believe in some relationships one should take charge in certain matters they know is for the better.
I struggle with certain aspects of my partner's lifestyle.
I want only the best and sometimes I only make it worse,with my lack of tact.
I don't see it as lack of tact though. I'm just passionate and in love.
Caring for one another's health and finances is not necessarily to be shared if the other is totally lacking in discipline.
Someone needs to rise above the inadequacies.
May I ask talloola, how long you have been together ?
Whats more important to me is how did it develop that you got to be in charge?
I must say typing the words in charge brings with it a sense of discomfort, but might be necessary.
Past relationships ended in the trash bin due to this very situation.
Bremusa
we had our 54th anniversary last september 27th.
Its easy to be in charge of something that the other person wants nothing to do with, as long as they
don't complaign about any aspect of that particular subject, and also the one in charge is aware of
what the other person doesn't like, and doesn't insist that they 'eat' those foods, but in my case
he likes almost everything, and so do I, and the few things that I don't like, he just doesn't get.
eg. wild duck, if he wants to go shooting and brings them home, he'll have to figure it out, cause
I won't have anything to do with them.
Hasn't happened yet, but he does go deer hunting, and I will gladly cook the liver, but don't like
venison otherwise, so we give it to the family, (the ones who like it.)
He just likes to be in the mountains, around his buddies who hunt with him, and the venison coming
home is not the focal point of the day.
This is just who we are, seems to work.
Yeah, I'm very aware of his health, and mine. He is easy to live with, I am very independent and he
doesn't interfere with that, so I have never felt trapped or controlled, ever, I can do anything I want,
which is a good feeling, I love being home body, have dogs and cats, and knowing I can do anything
I want, I don't.
I'm free within a marriage, and so is he, that brings respect and loyalty, and a great partnership.
This is a way off topic, so lets see, my resolution is - live smart, and be happy.