I feel for your son-in-law wolf. I saw the frustration, the helplessness, of standing around doing nothing when you have the skills to help, first hand this weekend. A 4 month old baby turned blue during his nap time at the festival I was at. Friends of friends. There was one nurse in our group, and a nurse in a group camping near us. There were other first aid and emergency responders to the scene before them, so they were not needed. Waiting 45 mins for the ambulances to arrive, watching those nurses strain to not run back to the scene again, was heartbreaking. Even after the ambulances arrived, during the wait for Stars, they were pacing, frustrated, helpless. It wasn't until Stars finally left the site, almost 2 and a half hours after the baby was found, that people could stop pacing and trying to find something to do.