The personality does not go in the hole. The energy that animates the body does not go in the hole. The personalities/spirits/minds accumulated experience does not go in the hole, it is used elsewhere I think.
those aspects of life 'die' with the person, just like your
car dies when it runs out of gas.
Your heart is a pump, and keeps the energy going all of your life, when
the pump stops pumping, all other parts stop functioning, there is no
energy left to carry on, game over, and the idea that little parts of you
fly out and travel 'somewhere' is ludicrous.
it is humourous how people make up little fairy tales, about
what they think happens to people after they die, wishful
thinking I guess, makes dieing more fun, with the curiosity
of 'what' you will be next time. lol
Your energy, personality and the love you gave etc., do
stay behind, and live in the hearts and minds of those
who loved you, (memories), that is valuable for them, to make their
lives happy without you, just make sure you leave good
thoughts within the persons who loved you, that is the
only control you have over, 'how' you are thought of after
you die.