Jay ...
Thanks for your sensible reply. Appreciate it. I gather you are hetero (you mentioned your wife) so, with all due respect, I must suggest you really have no idea of what kind of discrimination we face on a day to day basis. Everyone hears about the big hate crimes where someone dies tied to a fence, but what you don't see is the subtle forms of denigration that really cause the most problems. The innocent references to "you people", the unthinking treatment of homosexuals as second class citizens, the inconspicuous ways parents teach children that it is wrong. Scott Peck talks about the human evil as being not purposeful, but thoughtless acts. The worst form of bigotry is not the hay-chewing redneck with bad dental work that comes right out and offers to shoot gays, but the people who don't want to be seen as discriminatory but secretly harbour the same feelings as our redneck friend.
You said:
IMHO a compromise could have been reached on this issue, some time ago, and this would be a dead issue, but that isn’t the climate that exists.
I don't believe in compromise on this issue. It's like making us ride at the back of the bus. Any compromise still sets homosexual unions apart from heterosexual unions and, as such, equals bigotry. Marriage is marriage ... no matter what plumbing is involved. I've posted tons on this in other threads. It's my way of trying to do my bit to change the current climate.
Also, you also mentioned you're not crazy enough to parachute ... you oughta try it, Jay! It's the biggest rush you'll ever get in your life. Once you convince yourself to let go of that wing strut and actually fly through the air, nothing in life is ever as scary as that again. Skydiving is to flying what swimming is to boating ... only it tends to put life into perspective more efficiently than a dip in the lake.

Everything else in life seems like low-risk after that!
I do have one suggestion for you Jay ... I read your response to Peapod. To be fair, you have been involved in a lot of the trash talk happening on the forum. Whether it is your fault or not is irrelevant. If you don't like what someone posts, please ignore it. The crap has to end somewhere and I am hoping the ones involved here will switch to a higher ground and stop the process. Who's right and who's wrong is beside the point. Having a forum where people can exchange ideas (as we have on the SSM thing) is what really counts. It's gotten personal and everyone involved needs to just quit it. My thoughts on that, at least.

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