One in three Americans aged 18 to 31 living at home with parents
- Thread starter Locutus
- Start date
It is your mistake, I gave up on him a long time ago, everytime I see a gopher post, I think of;
“Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth"
This is not a bad thing, I understand the point of the article was to emphasize the state of the economy, but kids are better off with their families for a certain period of time. If you ask me, everyone should be in the military for at least one year to learn discipline and how to take care of themselves.
Yep, if their families haven't learned how to take care of themselves in 16-18 years, they're a lost cause, and the kids need to bail.
I respectfully disagree. The military isn't a Home Economics class.
Here comes some jaded karrie...
The only reason to expect other families to split up is 'economy fuel'. Sell more houses, sell more cars, increase costs of living. Shame people and make them feel weird if they prefer to stick together as a family, so that they get out and fuel the economy. When the economy begins to fail, you see people stop caring about what pop culture says they should do, and instead do what's right and best for them and their family.
The long and short of it is that no family should be making choices about who lives where and when, for any reason other than their own utility.... they should simply do what works for them.
I'm sure once the economy rebounds, people will be happy to waste money on separate living space again.
The only reason to expect other families to split up is 'economy fuel'. Sell more houses, sell more cars, increase costs of living. Shame people and make them feel weird if they prefer to stick together as a family, so that they get out and fuel the economy. When the economy begins to fail, you see people stop caring about what pop culture says they should do, and instead do what's right and best for them and their family.
The long and short of it is that no family should be making choices about who lives where and when, for any reason other than their own utility.... they should simply do what works for them.
I'm sure once the economy rebounds, people will be happy to waste money on separate living space again.
Yep. Ever notice the real big rich families live in clans? Like the Kennedys and the Bushes?
I'm sorry, that's simply unacceptable in a land that prides itself on freedom (be it Canada or the U.S.).
The powers that be have been out to destroy the family for ages. I think they achieved their goals.
We may have better parents in the generation after that one. When I was 19 my father told me that he wished that he had been around to do what he was supposed to do as a father. He used the examples of teaching me right from wrong or not to lie. He was surprised when I told him he did. By having a string of affairs, spending all of his free time in bars, leaving the family and showing little to no interest in me or my sister as we grew up he showed me exactly what not to do. Probably not what he had in mind but it did the trick.
You can name any emotion or feeling and say "some young people feel that way" and be right. It doesnt mean that a major chunk of them do. Yes, the world has problems, but when didnt it? This is nothing new to any generation.
Another thing every generation has been saying for millennia.
Yep. The first person who is actually on record as saying that kids today are lazy, stupid, and disrespectful was Socrates.
Indeed. I was in grade 9 when I read that. Felt pretty good to find out this was nothing new. He even thought learning to read and write was a bad move because people wouldnt have to remember things anymore. They could just look them up. Similar complaints are made about technology today.
I have been biting my tongue about this topic for a while, but I think it is time for me to say a couple of things about it.
I am at the tail end of the supposed "Generation Y", as I will be celebrating my 21st birthday in October. I have heard many of the comments that have been said about my age group from being "lazy" and "entitled". And I would be lying in saying that it doesn't worry me at all. In fact, it worries me quite a bit.
I do live at home with both my folks and my 87 year old grandmother who has been suffering with dementia for the past five years. My mother works full time at a local hospital while my father now works seasonally in hydro on days. At home, I get my grandmother set up for breakfast, lunch and sometimes dinner, and I fix myself on a good number of chores around the house.
Recently, I just left my four year part time job in town, in order to focus on my studies for the first year. I did not leave it in a matter of months or a year, as I had committed myself to it for nearly five years. Yes, at times, the job was 'a job' but it gave me a small income and a reason to get out there. I have also volunteered with a local lacrosse club, a local museum and many other events.
Tomorrow, me and my girlfriend will be moving up to Ottawa for school. We will be renting an apartment together that we will be paying, for the time being, with the help of disability. I have Asperger's Syndrome and she has non verbal learning disorder. We were also given numerous 'hand me downs' from an old 1999 Toyota Corolla to a kitchen table and chairs that look very 60's. And guess what? We are truly grateful for them! It is a start! We'll take anything we can get.
During my second term, I will be looking into getting a summer position with a local museum in my town. The program that we will be going into in Ottawa concerns the museum, and not only have I worked at that museum before with high school, but I also have a good number of personal connections there. It isn't a given of course, but I do see myself in having a good chance of being there in the summer.
Do I want to be living at home? As much as I am a big help to my folks, I'd rather not. I want to be out on my own and to have a place that I can call my own. Probably the biggest driving force in that is the fact that all of my half siblings are out on their own, though they are many years older than me. They are all settled with their lives and very content with themselves. It also doesn't help that another driving force for me is that for all of my life, I have been advocating and trying my best to be independent to begin with! Being at home just rubs me the wrong way and I still believe that I should be out.
I also feel that I should know more or do more than I should, already. I sometimes feel very inadequate when it comes to knowing basic things around the house. When I see my father do any automotive or home work, I feel very guilty that I don't know as much as him. Shouldn't I know some of these things by now?
TL;DR: Some of us do want to be out on our own and are very grateful for any 'hand me downs' and such. But what does it mean to be fully independent?
And another thing...
While having comments how our age group is entitled gets to me, hearing my age group say that the boomers had it easy is also troubling and a load of crap. When my folks were my age, they were married, had kids and were either working or taking care of them. They did more at 20 than I could possibly imagine. And guess what? They worked to get where they are, today. They worked and took care of us for a good chunk of their life. To say that they had it easy is really narrow minded.
I am at the tail end of the supposed "Generation Y", as I will be celebrating my 21st birthday in October. I have heard many of the comments that have been said about my age group from being "lazy" and "entitled". And I would be lying in saying that it doesn't worry me at all. In fact, it worries me quite a bit.
I do live at home with both my folks and my 87 year old grandmother who has been suffering with dementia for the past five years. My mother works full time at a local hospital while my father now works seasonally in hydro on days. At home, I get my grandmother set up for breakfast, lunch and sometimes dinner, and I fix myself on a good number of chores around the house.
Recently, I just left my four year part time job in town, in order to focus on my studies for the first year. I did not leave it in a matter of months or a year, as I had committed myself to it for nearly five years. Yes, at times, the job was 'a job' but it gave me a small income and a reason to get out there. I have also volunteered with a local lacrosse club, a local museum and many other events.
Tomorrow, me and my girlfriend will be moving up to Ottawa for school. We will be renting an apartment together that we will be paying, for the time being, with the help of disability. I have Asperger's Syndrome and she has non verbal learning disorder. We were also given numerous 'hand me downs' from an old 1999 Toyota Corolla to a kitchen table and chairs that look very 60's. And guess what? We are truly grateful for them! It is a start! We'll take anything we can get.
During my second term, I will be looking into getting a summer position with a local museum in my town. The program that we will be going into in Ottawa concerns the museum, and not only have I worked at that museum before with high school, but I also have a good number of personal connections there. It isn't a given of course, but I do see myself in having a good chance of being there in the summer.
Do I want to be living at home? As much as I am a big help to my folks, I'd rather not. I want to be out on my own and to have a place that I can call my own. Probably the biggest driving force in that is the fact that all of my half siblings are out on their own, though they are many years older than me. They are all settled with their lives and very content with themselves. It also doesn't help that another driving force for me is that for all of my life, I have been advocating and trying my best to be independent to begin with! Being at home just rubs me the wrong way and I still believe that I should be out.
I also feel that I should know more or do more than I should, already. I sometimes feel very inadequate when it comes to knowing basic things around the house. When I see my father do any automotive or home work, I feel very guilty that I don't know as much as him. Shouldn't I know some of these things by now?
TL;DR: Some of us do want to be out on our own and are very grateful for any 'hand me downs' and such. But what does it mean to be fully independent?
And another thing...
While having comments how our age group is entitled gets to me, hearing my age group say that the boomers had it easy is also troubling and a load of crap. When my folks were my age, they were married, had kids and were either working or taking care of them. They did more at 20 than I could possibly imagine. And guess what? They worked to get where they are, today. They worked and took care of us for a good chunk of their life. To say that they had it easy is really narrow minded.
What the hell are you doing wasting your time on a website where surly old farts express their discontent with. . . well, everything?
Go get laid, son!
great post bratly...Lol! I know...but I just wanted to add my 2 cents before I left.
just to note though, you are an exceptionally motivated young man with a big heart and a good head on your shoulders
he does have to get out of bed sometimes ya know, granny needs to be fed, and someone has to hall all that stuff off to the new apartment
