Yes, I think we do, as you put rape in quotations, implying it's not actually rape.
It's like you were "thinking".
See what I mean?
The implication is that if a husband does it, it's not quite rape. The implication is that all rape is violent. Yes, there are worse assaults, assault is something that often occurs hand in hand with rape, but rape is rape. Not beating a woman, doesn't mean you didn't rape her.
Do you get where I'm asking for clarification? Because you're not really explaining your view, you're just dancing around it a bunch.
Do you ever get the idea that some people are trying to give you the courtesy of clarifying what came off as a highly repugnant position?