Now....this is a HELL of alot better than what you started this thread out with, and what you have done on other threads....and boy...do I have some tales to tell concerning EXACTLEY what you are asking....I just don't have time right thisminute to tell..... let's just start out with that my 2 oldest boys are ADD/ADHD with violent tendancys...I'll get back to this.
Fair enough... I started it out the way I did out of straight forward frustration, both from putting myself in the girls' shoes of not being able to do much due to being out numbered, and also my own experiences growing up. I've tried to figure it out then, I'm still trying to figure it out now.
When I stated my focus towards the parents, that too was from my own first hand experiences.
^ To explain that a bit, I grew up with a few kids in the neighborhood that hung out with.... not really by choice, but because there wasn't many others in the nearby area to hang out with, esspecially in the summertime. I had to bike an hour or so to hang out with others, due to where I grew up.
But one in paticular was given up to his grandparents by his mother, who I never seen. His grandparents were very slack in dicipline, the kid got everything he wanted, games, movies, toys, everything his bitched for, he got....... then he'd turn around and destroy those things just for the hell of it and demand more. He stole things from myself, and other kids in the neighborhood..... and he either broke/destroyed them, or he sold them at a local pawn shop. He yelled at his grandparents, showed no respect for them, swore at them, and hell, I've even seen him take a few swings in the past at them. They'd yell at him for something he did, he'd ignore them or tell them to get the hell out of his room, they'd shake their head and walk away...... solving nothing.
I of course wasn't phased by him, let alone intemidated by him, because not only was I a couple of years older then him, but I was also twice his size and beat the crap out of him everytime he tried to pick a fight
(Just until he hit the ground crying of course, I'm not a thug that beats people while they're down)
But near the last years of my schooling, I never really went over to his place, or talked to him, not just because he was a jackass, but also because I had nothing to relate with him.
Last I heard from my father, was that he was on a few house arrests, took off and ran away from his grandparents, got caught by the police and in jail somewhere..... for what, I don't know, let alone care.... to me, he's a lost cause.
Now I can and can't blame his grandparents in this situation paticularlly, because in my view, they already raised their kids, they shouldn't have had to raise their grandkid. But of course, if they let their daughter pass her kid off on them, and she couldn't take on her own responsibilities as a parent, then that says something else I suppose about their own parenting abilities. But from what I seen first hand on how he dealt with parental authority, they allowed him to walk all over them..... and in that aspect.... the "Parenting" wasn't there. It seemed they were more fearful of him hating them, then what he might end up doing in the future to others due to this.
And I say this, in comparison to my own upbringing. My was overly balanced with freedoms and responsibilities, while his has all kinds of freedoms and no responsibilities, let alone any solid consequences. The only consequences he learned that I could see, were when he did something to other kids and they retaliated.
I know not all parents are like this, and I know there's some great kids out there.... but for them, I worry about these other idiots who do this sort of thing to them (Burning them, ganging up on them, beating them up.... all over stupid/trivial things)
And when it comes to myself, I admit..... for the most part, I was quite the aszhole and I got into a lot of trouble in my own past.... but I still knew my limits and I never physically lashed out at anybody or anything unless in self defense. I respected my elders (Unless of course they were jerks to me from the start....) and I knew not to break the law or put others in danger by my own actions.
And when I hear of reports and situations such as this one I posted, or the others I posted about kids going way out of control and harming others in society, I think back to this one kid and how he was raised in comparison to myself.
I'm not perfect that's for sure.... nobody is, but I'm not going around beating others up, stealing their stuff, killing animals, or disrespecting my parents or others in my area of living.... but it makes one wonder.... wtf is wrong with people/kids like this? (General Question)