My dad would kick my ass whether I deserved it or not, just in case I was thinking of doing something he didn't approve of. What he did accomplish was that I turned into a rebel and have no respect for authority. The only reason I never got myself in trouble and kept out of jail was the thought of having to shack up with Bubba.
yeah, the bubba situation, not too comfortable a feeling
the kick his ass thing is such a backward reaction to your children. My husband went thru that over and
over, till he didn't care about it at all, just get it over with, then I will continue going my own way
whether you like it or not, he was never a bad kid, just wanted to play sports, and the immigrant
parents hated that, and he didn't stop playing sports, which he loved, sneaked out,
was given skates and other stuff by other people and grew up to be a good player
of multiple sports and a good person.
The kick your ass reaction only 'works' on kids who are fearful, but they will grow up to resent
that treatment, and who knows how they will react then.
Those kinds of parents didn't have the ability to 'think' with authority and constructive teaching.