Women who love psycopaths

darkbeaver

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Women Who Love Psychopaths: Book Review



Carol Hoyer, PhD
News Blaze
Sat, 31 Jan 2009 21:16 UTC



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The authors have given us an excellent overview of how women get sucked into unhealthy relationships with men who are power hungry, controlling and have no concern or empathy for those whom they hurt. These are men who can harm an individual without killing them. Psychologist's and society call them sociopaths or psychopaths.

The detailed information on topics such as: understanding the psychopath; how men hook women into their dark world; the woman who is a high risk for getting into a relationship with a psychopath and stories from four women who were caught in this deceitful web.

As I read this book, I will honestly say that it was the story of my daughter and the man who took her life without killing her. Reading this book gave me chills for all women who are or might get into a relationship like this. One chapter that really held my interest was the chapter on "The Use of Trance, Hypnosis and Suggestibility." The authors talk about how this type of man can spend all his time around a woman focusing on them and no one else by making little comments such as "You're so wonderful and beautiful," "No one has ever made me feel the way you do- they just don't understand me." How does this work you might ask- one thing I found from reading this book is that some women have high attentional factors- this comes from possible history of abuse or neglect; extensive dependency and excessive self-sacrificing.

As a Psychologist, I do know that we all have asked how can women stay in a relationship with a man like this? The author's have done an incredible job in explaining the temperament, and character traits that draw women into this type of harmful relationship and further explain why they remain. This book is such an unbelievable account of a profile of women who attract psychopaths. After reading this, readers will have an excellent view of how, what and when this happens. This is a book every therapist should recommend to women who have been in harmful relationships and it is a book all therapists or would-be therapist need to read.

Sandra L. Brown, Liane J. Leedom
Health and Well-Being Publications
P.O. Box 1056
Fairfield, CT 06825
Safe Relationships |

Carol Hoyer is a Psychologist and online college instructor, as well as a freelance book reviewer. You can contact her through NewsBlaze or her blog at voicesfromreading.blogspot.com
 

Said1

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Narcissists. They exploit weakness, or they create weakness in people - or both.


Did you read this book or jsut interested in the topic?
 

Kreskin

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I don't believe you. If you really were a psycho, you wouldn't care. :lol:

Or, if you're really a boring, run of the mill narcissist, you''re probably in denial.
It's not about caring, it's about having my alibi ducks in a row.
 

Kreskin

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Yes, I was here all night. I only moved dirt in the basement because I needed exercise.
 

Twila

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The authors talk about how this type of man can spend all his time around a woman focusing on them and no one else by making little comments such as "You're so wonderful and beautiful," "No one has ever made me feel the way you do- they just don't understand me.

So in a healthy relationship with emotionally healthy men and women, these types of sweetnothings can't be said? Or is it just that for some people who say them and for some people who like to hear them, it's bad? Or is it simply a fake call out?
 

lone wolf

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So in a healthy relationship with emotionally healthy men and women, these types of sweetnothings can't be said? Or is it just that for some people who say them and for some people who like to hear them, it's bad? Or is it simply a fake call out?

I suppose there really is a fine line between the sweet nothings spoken in romance and those spoken to manipulate.... The big difference is did you feel used when it's all said and done?
 

Said1

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So in a healthy relationship with emotionally healthy men and women, these types of sweetnothings can't be said? Or is it just that for some people who say them and for some people who like to hear them, it's bad? Or is it simply a fake call out?
I haven't read the book, but I'm assuming the person will taylor their speal with what works, specific to any given women's weaknesses - the above probably being classic. When people are really good at this sort of thing, you don't have to show weakness outwardly (over weight, homley, posture) a lot of revealed in what you say, (or on the internet write) without even realizing it.
 

Nuggler

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8O........" women have high attentional factors-"

WTF is a high attentional factor.??

That's what my problem was. These smoothies jist say whut th' wimmin wanna heare, eh. My line was "hey wanna go fishin?"......y'all bring the beer and the geetar. Ah'l show ya how ta play. I'll fish.

Never scored much, but I caught a lot of fish.........hehehehe.......Always had to buy me own werms two, eh.

Gerls, ifn a guy is tellin ya yer beautiful but is lookin in the mirror at hiself, yanno he's a psycho. er a socio at the minimum.

Quit him an get yerselves a farmer.

When he starts stayin out in the barn too long, yer doin sumpthun rong.

Er, Bossie is doin sumpthin rite

eh

:cool:
 

Avro

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I think the beave is wondering aloud why he can' get a date when stats show he shouldn't have a problem finding a few insane women out for punishment.