You're fixated on the excuses here Sal... Where's a solution that makes sense?
well that's what we are exploring here, solutions that make sense. What is your solution since you don't like mine?
.. And it's not 'luck' that landed these kids (that I know) in positive environments - it is the byproduct of parents that assume complete responsibility for themselves and their children.. End of story.
Those kids don’t need help or at least
very little help. They are in positive environments. Forget those kids, they seldom end up on Social Assistance.
We know historically that some will indeed succeed and rise from terrible circumstances despite their parents and society. But the majority are unable to do so and turn to crime or self-abuse through drugs and alcohol ending up on government assistance.
They then have children raised in the same horrendous abusive environment and the cycle continues. WE have to break the cycle. Most people who are already beaten down or ill cannot break that cycle. Saying “they should just get off their lazy azz, abandoning them and turning a blind eye is costing society a lot of money. And they still live in misery with the assistance. It isn’t helping anyone.
I think you are projecting the way the world was when you were growing up and how it is now. Back then everyone struggled along. There were the poor but there was not such a huge gap between have's and have-nots.
In many circumstances, one can either chose to allow them self to be a victim or they can choose not to be.
yes, but what about the ones in other circumstances? forget them?
What I'm interpreting in your responses is that you are choosing to assume that anyone that doesn't succeed in whatever fashion is a victim of fate (or whatever) and it's impossible for them to rise above it.
I know you are interpreting it that way. But you are incorrect.
People on
long term Social Assistance do not have middle class values, do not look at the world in the same way you do, and are not going to “shape up” any time soon. Anyone can fail if they choose to. Not everyone has the capacity to win without some help.
I want help placed and increased in our education system and into our social programs to support those kids who come from homes where everything is against them so that they may succeed in life. For me it would mean successful, fulfilled people, for you it would mean less cost to the infrastructure.
Everyone is not born equal. Mentally, physically, emotionally we come from a gene pool. We have genetic components that are a given. Then some are born to nurturing parents, other to rich, others to poor. We are a combination of genetics and environment. We work from there. An example would be Oprah Winfrey. She came from numbing poverty and abuse; mental, physical, and sexual.
She is one of the richest women in the world. Why? Well, she has a much higher than average and her 3rd grade teacher took a special interest in her. She taught her to love learning, and the rest is history.
That’s what I want: an opportunity for those for whom the world is against to succeed. I think we can do it, one kid at a time.