Fair enough and as I indicated in a reply post to Karrie the other day, there is a big part of me that hates when that happens. But what's also important is understanding why it happens. The old standby of if one person has a problem with you it's probably them, but if many people have a problem with you, well that increases the likelihood it's more or less you that is the problem, would seem to apply.
Your position is just one more way od saying political correctness. There are different kinds of political correctness, one being not bowing down to a dominant in group's pecking order. Given that none of us are perfect and on a board where there is bound to be some back and forth, you have not provided any evidence that I have attacked others without provocation. Your complaint is that I am "too new". Too new for what, to insert facts and positions into a debate that discomfort the other debater? Or replying sharply back at sharp replies? Your entire position is pecking order and in-group oriented.