More single women than men?

[Minority Observer84]

so can children

Like I said unpredictable granted I've never had a child bite me , but just last weekend while I was jogging at the park some kid threw a squishy at a bird (right out of the blue it was half full one minute he's sipping happily the next he's chucking it ) it missed the bird and stained my new shorts . I tell you that kid is lucky his mom is so hot .

 

[SwitSof]

You just made a GIANT bunch of assumptions. You couldn't be more wrong. Me and my wife have 4 degrees between us, and both plan to work. But it's understandable that a woman would like to take as long as possible to raise her child when it's very young.

Sorry about that, sincere apologies. That is understandable too, I wasn't thinking that is a bigger possibility.
Probably since I heard another ex-colleague who doesn't like working anymore wouldn't mind to be married on an arranged marriage in Japan, which just gave me a chuckle to hear that, since she doesn't like house chores either!

 

[Minority Observer84]

these answers make it reasonably clear to me why you don't think much of love. You simply can't understand it. You're selfish, and lack empathy. I mean no offence by this observation, but it's the truth.

I've been told I lack empathy . As for selfish well that depends , I spend 10 hours of my busy week doing volunteer work the difference being that when I leave the office I don't have to worry about it till next week. Plus I see a solid positive practical purpose for my volunteer work but for kids zip.

 

[hermanntrude]

let me qualify the statement. Your observations on children are entirely selfish. You're thinking only of the effect the children will have on you. Your perception is based entirely on your pride in yourself and your way of life as it currently stands. Your imagination needs a stretch, I think.

Of course I may be wrong. Perhaps in two month's time i'll come back and plead with the world to take my baby away before I strangle it. Probably not, though.

 

[SwitSof]

these answers make it reasonably clear to me why you don't think much of love. You simply can't understand it. You're selfish, and lack empathy. I mean no offence by this observation, but it's the truth.

Were you like that when you were his age, Herm?
If you were, what changed you to want to tie the knot again?

 

[hermanntrude]

I was just exactly the same. I'm not even sure when or how it happened but children and marriage became goals for me and so far it's turned out wonderfully.

 

[Minority Observer84]

let me qualify the statement. Your observations on children are entirely selfish. You're thinking only of the effect the children will have on you. Your perception is based entirely on your pride in yourself and your way of life as it currently stands. Your imagination needs a stretch, I think..

But that is the basis for my entire argument if they seem like such a bother to me a stranger who really only has to deal with them in public places how terrible would it be for the parent who has to watch this thing all the time . Parent who wakes and sleeps to this child handles their every need and has to handle all their inconviences . Sounds terrifying .

And those shorts were (take note of me using the past sense here ) awesome now it just hurts to look at them .

 

[SwitSof]

I was just exactly the same.

Still the same now?

 

[hermanntrude]

no. I have a very different attitude to myself and to other people than I used to.

 

[hermanntrude]

But that is the basis for my entire argument if they seem like such a bother to me a stranger who really only has to deal with them in public places how terrible would it be for the parent who has to watch this thing all the time . Parent who wakes and sleeps to this child handles their every need and has to handle all their inconviences . Sounds terrifying .

And those shorts were (take note of me using the past sense here ) awesome now it just hurts to look at them .

Yes well that's my point too. You can't see past the "bother" because the "bother" is all you can see, since it's the part that most obviously relates to you as you see yourself now. If you could think a little more widely, remember that babies grow up, become adults, and also that there are elements to parenthood you haven't considered in your observation of families. Have you ever noticed the smile on a mother's face when their baby makes a burbley noise or smiles or laughs or farts or does almost anything? I reckon that smile has to be taken into consideration.

Inconvenience is nothing.

 

[eh1eh]

As soon as you see that new life you and someone else have created your heart and mind will be changed forever.
BTW the farts are the funniest. :smile:

 

[Dreadful Nonsense]

octogenerians intermaryying what ya gonna do when the lights go out?
shawn phillips...lil didy popped out.....

 

[SwitSof]

BTW the farts are the funniest. :smile:

That can happen between couples even.
As long as it doesn't go as far as like you stop closing the toilet door for example.

BTW, I knew you wouldn't just give me a gag!
Bugger, I forgot about the clicking gag to spread to my ex-colleagues!

 

[SwitSof]

What really pissed me off is having this bloke acquaintance dare say that since more women feel the clock is ticking to have a companionship, then blokes would have the upper hand to make their partner do things the partner is not that comfortable doing on the first place :angryfire: Made my stomach turned.

 

[hermanntrude]

that is a pretty twisted way of looking at it, you're right.

 

[SwitSof]

He is setting up a website to connect Portuguese who are living and working in the UK who need support from the community.
He is actually one too actually.
What he has told me that there are Portuguese women who have very low-paid jobs thus would settle down to find a companion whom they can live together with to make life easier say financially.
And in this life where it's clear between the two that the man has the upper hand, some of the male partners feel it's their right to enforce things the female partners are not comfortable with. Please note I was saying some.
This acquaintance even made a bold statement eventually that for example more and more women would say compromise to give oral sex even though they don't fancy doing it (it's a matter of personal preference after all, isn't it?) because the clock is ticking and it's so hard to find men who wouldn't demand having it. Argghh, if I had him in front of me, I probably slap his face! :angryfire:

 

[hermanntrude]

you can't demand oral sex. but you sure can be upset if you never get it. I'd say, though, that the best way to get is to give.

 

[Minority Observer84]

Manipulating people into doing something they do not want to do is twisted and sick ,

 

[SwitSof]

Manipulating people into doing something they do not want to do is twisted and sick ,

Exactly!

you can't demand oral sex. but you sure can be upset if you never get it. I'd say, though, that the best way to get is to give.

So you're saying that he's right that most blokes at least would be upset of not getting it?
I reckon people who don't like giving it wouldn't expect to receive it either.

 

[hermanntrude]

I expect most men, but certainly not all, would be upset if they never got it again, yes. But I do think it's unfair to demand it. Especially if you won't return the favour.