More single women than men?

[SwitSof]

I am shocked to hear some news from an ex-colleague that another ex-colleague whom I expect the least to get married quickly is going to get married soon.
I suppose a congrat is in order indeed, but it just bewilders me how she can get married sooner than other fantastic single women I know out there.
This woman is more of a tomboy, always wears trousers and T-shirt even cause our department is more of the back office, so it's pretty casual. She never wears make up even though there are blemishes on her face. It's probably a sign of self-confidence which is of course a good thing for her. She is rather chubby and despite of these personality-wise she is not really a nice person either however...
I know I'm being unkind and am not proud of it, but I know women who are prettier, nicer, smart, financially independent and still single.
It really bewilders me how no man ever asked these women's hand in marriage. They are already in their late 30s and I know at least one doesn't mind it much even though she just had her 40th b'day this year even, but I know one is quite worried and started asking herself why.
When I was in Japan, I also saw there are more single women in their 30s than the men. And some of them would go to say Bali to find men who would fancy them. Who said only men who can order Russian brides huh? :lol:
What are you guys looking for actually anyway? I must admit if I were a guy, I at least would ask one of these women on a date instantly and it confuses me no man has as they told me they haven't been on a date for couple of years even!

 

[Minority Observer84]

Well I think the entire concept of being married is overrated . People assume marriage as a life milestone . Finsh college , get a good job , get married have kids . Boring! I've been single for years just having very short relations I'am only 22 but I'am not at all interested in getting married . As far as i'am concerned staying with the same person for years on end would drive me to extreme boredom.

 

[eh1eh]

Maybe your chubby friend is settling for what she can get. Maybe the pretty financially stable ones are too picky, having expectations of having a man that is just as good looking and financially set as they are. That would narrow the odds quite a bit. Maybe their standards are set too high? Maybe they are nice and personable in social settings but stuck up prisses to potential partners. I guess it's all in your attitude as to what results you can get. If they've not even been asked out they must be putting out some bad vibes.

On a lighter note, you could recommend this service. :canada:

 

[DurkaDurka]

Why date when you can go on the Internet? You can chat, look at porn, chat some more, look at more porn. All your needs filled right there...

 

[SwitSof]

Well I think the entire concept of being married is overrated . People assume marriage as a life milestone . Finsh college , get a good job , get married have kids . Boring! I've been single for years just having very short relations I'am only 22 but I'am not at all interested in getting married . As far as i'am concerned staying with the same person for years on end would drive me to extreme boredom.

Well, good for you then if you don't want to get married. I'm sure there are women out there who think and want the same thing with you.

 

[SwitSof]

Why date when you can go on the Internet? You can chat, look at porn, chat some more, look at more porn. All your needs filled right there...

Well... if you are satisfied with that, good on ya.
I and these female friends I know at least want companionship. Nothing on the internet beats the first kiss and the electricity you feel when a loved one puts his arms around you.

 

[SwitSof]

Maybe your chubby friend is settling for what she can get. Maybe the pretty financially stable ones are too picky, having expectations of having a man that is just as good looking and financially set as they are. That would narrow the odds quite a bit. Maybe their standards are set too high? Maybe they are nice and personable in social settings but stuck up prisses to potential partners. I guess it's all in your attitude as to what results you can get. If they've not even been asked out they must be putting out some bad vibes.

Perhaps... for the chubby girl.
What are these vibes that you blokes get usually?
I don't reckon they're high maintenance. I'm not high maintenance for sure and don't really fancy high maintenance people even as friends, so I don't reckon they are as we do get along well. I even just travelled in Ireland before I moved to France with one of these women and we got along quite well and I've been travelling alone all this while.
Of course I don't reckon they're that desperate to lower their standards too low. I myself would prefer to be alone rather to compromise so much with somebody I have nothing in common with.
They seem to want normal nice guys: guys who have a job that at least can support themselves financially, who know how to love and respect her, who know what they want in life, who have the same interests and values and who can present themselves well enough and at least be neat if we're talking about appearance.

On a lighter note, you could recommend this service. :canada:

Are you kidding me?! One of these women used to be a flight attendant even! :lol:

 

[Minority Observer84]

I'm sure there are women out there who think and want the same thing with you.

Ahmen to that !

 

[eh1eh]

Are you kidding me?! One of these women used to be a flight attendant even! :lol:

Yes. It's a gag site. LOL;-)

 

[hermanntrude]

Well I think the entire concept of being married is overrated .

It's not.

 

[SwitSof]

It's not.

Maybe you can deliberate that more Hermann to the 22-year old lad here, since you're married.

 

[karrie]

Well I think the entire concept of being married is overrated . People assume marriage as a life milestone . Finsh college , get a good job , get married have kids . Boring! I've been single for years just having very short relations I'am only 22 but I'am not at all interested in getting married . As far as i'am concerned staying with the same person for years on end would drive me to extreme boredom.

That's about the typical thought process for a young man.

 

[SwitSof]

That's about the typical thought process for a young man.

Probably not, heaps of men recently are like that.
Have a good friend who is French Belgian and is now 37 years old and is still afraid of commitment.
I heard him talking that he would like to have children someday but still the idea of getting married scares the heck out of him.
The Irish men are also avoiding marriage now. From what I've heard they don't want to lose everything if a divorce were in order several years down the road later, which did happen to some men and I must admit I don't find it fair actually. This fear is understandable, but yeah I'm not sure how to put it, still for the longest time it does seem the women would be the party who wants to tie the knot whereas the men do everything they can to get away. Still not sure why...

 

[hermanntrude]

Maybe you can deliberate that more Hermann to the 22-year old lad here, since you're married.

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Well first of all, i'd say that at 22, marriage didn't make a lot of sense to me either.

I'd also say that if you never meet someone you can trust and communicate with deeply enough, then marriage isn't any good for you, but of course that might not be because there's no-one good enough....

Having said that, if you're up to it, marriage is very rewarding indeed. Two people can live so much more easily together. safety, security, emotional support, always having someone to talk to, someone you don't have to hide anything from, someone who knows everything.

And of course if you didn't get married (or at least act married) then you wouldn't have a family. I think having a family will be even more rewarding than having a wife. I'll let you know, though...

 

[Minority Observer84]

It's not.

Is too! LOL

 

[SwitSof]

Is too! LOL

Very mature...

 

[Minority Observer84]

Probably not, heaps of men recently are like that.
Have a good friend who is French Belgian and is now 37 years old and is still afraid of commitment.
I heard him talking that he would like to have children someday but still the idea of getting married scares the heck out of him.
The Irish men are also avoiding marriage now. From what I've heard they don't want to lose everything if a divorce were in order several years down the road later, which did happen to some men and I must admit I don't find it fair actually. This fear is understandable, but yeah I'm not sure how to put it, still for the longest time it does seem the women would be the party who wants to tie the knot whereas the men do everything they can to get away. Still not sure why...

I don't think it's something about me that's going to change . I find the whole idea of monogomy boring . Plus a person gives up a lot of the freedoms they gained from adult hood to marriage . I have a friend every single time we go out his wife calls him at least 4-5 times my god ! he even check in with her whenever he's going to be late from work (seriously one time I was driving him home from work and I get a flat and he calls to tell her he's gona be late because of my flat ) Granted he does it to her whenever she's out and about but still it's infantile.By the way having kids is extremely overrated . Why anyone would anyone want the responsibility , financial pressure and the general extra work attached to having offspring is beyond me .

P.S my parents have been married for more than 30 years and have 6 kids I still can't figure that out .

 

[Minority Observer84]

Very mature...

Yeah i guess i'am making karrie's point for her

 

[SwitSof]

P.S my parents have been married for more than 30 years and have 6 kids I still can't figure that out .

Easy... you haven't been in love.

 

[karrie]

Yeah i guess i'am making karrie's point for her

That wasn't my point. It's not a matter of immaturity per se. It's more a matter of natural progressions. Most young people need to get to know themselves well, enjoy time exploring the world, before they're ready to settle down into a marriage and/or family life. Immaturity, while it might be the proper technical definition, bears conotations that I really don't think apply.