Men's Rights?

fuzzylogix

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tracy said:
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Are the instances of death higher for babies born at home?

They aren't.

Tracy, thanks for all your input on your other posts. While I agree with some of what you are saying, you are right that I do view things differently and I wont change my mind about home births. Here is a true case of midwifery from somewhere around here in the past few years.

Suzy the midwife, was attending her patient (who she had assessed as being in the low risk group) during her home birth.
The first FIFTY THREE hours of labour were uneventful and Suzy was constantly reassuring her patient.
However, possibly because Suzy had a party on the third day to go to, or possibly because she saw a bit of blood, or possibly because the damn baby just wasnt coming out, Suzy finally had her patient taken to hospital. Where, despite the immediate C section and attention of all the specialists who immediately noted the marked deceleration tracings, the baby did very very poorly and finally died.

I quote this true story to make a few points:

1. You cannot use the fact that there are bad doctors and bad hospitals as a reason for home birth. Just as there are disasters in hospitals with negligent doctors, there are also disasters with negligent midwifes. A woman who chooses a midwife may have no more knowledge about her abilities than she does a doctor. A woman making a decision on home birth cannot assume that the only negligence will occur in hospital.

2. With regard to statistics, and this is only one of several cases I can quote from the past few years in Canada, the above case is listed as a HOSPITAL death because the patient was in HOSPITAL. It is not listed as a home birth death, because the baby did not die at home. But clearly, the midwife delivering at HOME caused the bad outcome. During home birth, about 30-40% of cases get subsequently transferred to hospital. Mortality and morbidity statistics then get confused as the baby (and mother) become a hospital statistic, and are not listed as a bad outcome of a home birth.

3. You are correct that England has a more extensive, more experienced and better supplied midwifery program. So does Australia. One of my friends is a midwife on the flying doctor service. But in both of these countries, the service provides for very isolated areas that do not have any hospitals in the vicinity.
In Canada, one has to accept that isolated areas such as the far North do have limits on medical service. Women in these areas do have to make a choice of going sometimes hundreds of miles away from home to have a baby or really risking no available backup in an emergency. My point is that Canada should be funding all hospitals to develop more and better birthing units. Women should not be put off going to a hospital setting that is in their own town, just because they fear the archaic mode of delivery. Hospitals dont deliver that way anymore, at least none that I know of.

4. Women should also consider the fact that many women have to transfer to a hospital in the middle of their home birth. Boy, I bet that is comfortable. Wouldn't they rather just be able to stay put in their birthing unit room than transferred in a car or ambulance? Also, women should be aware that even in a normal delivery a home birth may become horrific. My friend chose home birth with the kids around. When finally my friend screamed that she needed an epidural, the midwife informed her it was too late for one and had no other pain relief. So the fun family home birth turned into a mad screaming disaster which is well imprinted on the siblings minds!!!!

5. Who got sued in the 53 hour labour home birth disaster above??? Why, the obstetrician and anaesthetist, and hospital staff. The midwife wasnt even named, and in fact continued to be thanked and protected by the patient. So even if you examine law suits arising from bad births, the relationship to home birth can be obscured.
 

Kreskin

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fuzzylogix said:
That's correct, Kreskin. Life is a little more complicated, and at the PRESENT time, the law does not consider the man's position. BUT, I think times are changing and I think men are starting to realize that some of their own rights are being infringed upon and they may start fighting back.

And sadly, the debate IS often about money. To say that you cant reduce it to that is ridiculous. Our laws DO reduce most compensations down to money. I think it will happen that men sue the women for having an abortion. And the law may well change in the future. Laws do, as society changes. A woman can prevent pregnancy. So maybe she will have to accept the responsibility over a pregnancy too, and either have the male opt out over support fees if he DOESN'T want the child and she has it, OR pay HIM compensation for an abortion if he does.

Snickering away? I wouldn't. Look how divorce laws have changed dramatically over the years as fathers have been standing up for their rights. Years ago, a father would have had zero chance of getting custody of his kids, even with a deadbeat mum. Times have changed.

I agree, that the men's argument is financial. Financial only. The slavery part is not up for grabs.
 

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The only other part of your post I would disagree with is that men don't have the choice on whether to be fathers or not. Men make that decision when you stick your penis in a vagina. End of story as far as I'm concerned. Biology means that's the only time you get to choose.

Sorry Tracy, but that is not a choice. Sex is part of survival. It is like food and water, you need them to live. It takes two to have sex, so why does one person get 100% of the choice and the other person get 0% of the choice? Your logic is flawed.
 

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tracy said:
The only other part of your post I would disagree with is ...#6 a bit. Every history course I have ever taken has focused on men. It isn't called men's studies, but that's what it is.

Women's studies are not about women in history. They are about women's issues. The problems women face, and studies on how to overcome those problems. The same cannot be said for men. There are no courses on men's issues, and the problems facing men. Probably because people turn a blind eye to men's issues, and don't think they are important, but they are just as real and important as women's issues. Just because we pretend the issue doesn't exist, doesn't make it go away.
 

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Andrew said:
Does anyone know of any "Men's rights" activist groups in Canada? More specifically in Vancouver? There doesn't seem to be an organized effort, but there are many areas which need to be addressed:

1. Men's right to choose (to be a father or not - we are not just sperm donors)
2. Father's rights (divorce and child custody)
3. Criminal laws not applied equally to both sexes
4. Misandry in the media
5. Genital mutilation (circumcision) - OK for males, illegal for females?!?
6. Lack of "men's studies" courses in university
7. Unequal access (men's only clubs (sports teams, scouts, etc) = bad, women's only clubs (just ladies fitness) = good?!?)
8. Push to encourage males to gain valuable higher level education is very limited, but the push to encourage females to continue their education is HUGE!!! Many more females than males in universities today.
9. Lack of studies on men's health
10. Domestic violence against males (physical, mental, and emotional abuse goes mostly unreported)

There are more issues facing this generation and all the next generations of males (your husbands, sons, brothers, nephews, etc.), and as 50% of the population, we need to ensure government and policy makers are listening to OUR concerns, and not just receiving one side of the story.


riiiight... you must be kidding? Or you are just ignorant of history. Either way, men's rights are pretty much covered and preserved by 5000 years of laws which have always been lsanted in our favour to start with and the reason women have had to fight for their rights and the reason we have university courses on these subjects is because they were put down for such a long time. As Women rights become more equal to that of men I guess we are bound to have some nut jobs plead the case of mens rights which have always been protected, and perhaps others who try to focus on mens rights to regress or slow those of womens rights. To those who think the rights of men compaired to those of women are infringed on I say read history, learn and do not base your idea's on ignorance.

We are living in today, so why do you mention things that have happened 5000 years ago? Society has come a long way in 5000 years. Do some research, the Women's courses have nothing to do with women in history, it is all about women's issues. I believe that men face very real issues today, and they are not being addressed.

Personally I have no problem with equality, and I view people as people, not as male, female, white, black, asian, ... And we should all have equal rights under the laws of Canada. This is not the case today. There are many groups bringing light to their issues, but the same cannot be said for "Men's Rights".

This is the problem men face today, if you make a comment on "Men's Rights", you get labeled a "nut job", or a "loser", or a "wimp".
 

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Number 5 made me laugh. How can male circumcision even compare with the removal of your clitoris? I mean THINK ABOUT IT, it doesn't work anymore! That's the entire point.

All humans deserve the right to experience sex the way it was intended. When you mutilate the genitals of a man, you remove his right. If he decides to have this operation performed later in life, then that is his choice. Same goes for a girl, if you remove her clitoral hood, she does not experience sex as it should be experienced. 85% of female genital mutilation involves only the removal of the clitoral hood, which is the equivalent to the male's foreskin.

One is outlawed, and the other is promoted. Do a quick search on FGM, and you will see lots of information on "Female Genital Mutilation", and "STOP FGM NOW"...Do a search on MGM, and you get information about "MGM studios". Also, one is called circumcision, and the other is called genital mutilation....Why is that? Positive spin, negative spin.

They are both negative, and should be banned.
 

Andrew

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Said1 said:
Number 5 made me laugh. How can male circumcision even compare with the removal of your clitoris? I mean THINK ABOUT IT, it doesn't work anymore! That's the entire point.

All humans deserve the right to experience sex the way it was intended. When you mutilate the genitals of a man, you remove his right. If he decides to have this operation performed later in life, then that is his choice. Same goes for a girl, if you remove her clitoral hood, she does not experience sex as it should be experienced. 85% of female genital mutilation involves only the removal of the clitoral hood, which is the equivalent to the male's foreskin.

One is outlawed, and the other is promoted. Do a quick search on FGM, and you will see lots of information on "Female Genital Mutilation", and "STOP FGM NOW"...Do a search on MGM, and you get information about "MGM studios". Also, one is called circumcision, and the other is called genital mutilation....Why is that? Positive spin, negative spin.

They are both negative, and should be banned.
 

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About Midwifery, I noticed this nugget of goldness

"Women should also consider the fact that many women have to transfer to a hospital in the middle of their home birth. Boy, I bet that is comfortable. Wouldn't they rather just be able to stay put in their birthing unit room than transferred in a car or ambulance? "

If they would rather just stay put, they wouldn't be going to a midwife in the first place, and you wouldn't need a law saying they couldn't use one if you worried about what they wanted.

For various religious and cultural, hell even just free choice, I will NEVER support forcing someone to undergo medical treatment they don't want. (which is different from dissallowing someone non-vital medical treatment)

Where would that stop? Forcing Jehovahs Witnesses to accept blood transfusions? keeping people on "DNR's" on life support?
 

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Kreskin said:
Zzarch, until men carry the fetus/baby inside them there is no such thing as pregnancy equality. Take away her right to decide is basically slavery. Forced birth is equality? The guy will always have the deciding vote and he's not expected to do anything but watch. I couldn't disagree more.

Of course this is a situation where both parties understand each others position on being a parent (or not) (ie a one night stand is assumed neither wants a baby (unless she is just looking for a sperm donor)). I guess the choices should come down to:

1. They decide to keep the baby
2. They decide to abort the baby
3. They decide to give the baby away for adoption
4. She decides she wants the baby, he decides he doesn't, so she gets the baby and he has no further obligations.
5. she doesn't want an abortion, nor does she want the baby, but he does, so he gets the baby and she has no further obligations.
6. She wants an abortion, he wants the baby, she wins, he falls into a deep depression.

Can you think of any more?

The real issue is, you can't have 0% of the choice, yet still 100% of the accountability.
 

Kreskin

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Andrew said:
The only other part of your post I would disagree with is that men don't have the choice on whether to be fathers or not. Men make that decision when you stick your penis in a vagina. End of story as far as I'm concerned. Biology means that's the only time you get to choose.

Sorry Tracy, but that is not a choice. Sex is part of survival. It is like food and water, you need them to live. It takes two to have sex, so why does one person get 100% of the choice and the other person get 0% of the choice? Your logic is flawed.

If the father wants the baby and the mother doesn't, what's the result if you force the baby to be born? Someone had 100% of the choice. We'll never get away from someone having 100% of the choice, the matter is which one.
 

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Kreskin said:
Andrew said:
The only other part of your post I would disagree with is that men don't have the choice on whether to be fathers or not. Men make that decision when you stick your penis in a vagina. End of story as far as I'm concerned. Biology means that's the only time you get to choose.

Sorry Tracy, but that is not a choice. Sex is part of survival. It is like food and water, you need them to live. It takes two to have sex, so why does one person get 100% of the choice and the other person get 0% of the choice? Your logic is flawed.

If the father wants the baby and the mother doesn't, what's the result if you force the baby to be born? Someone had 100% of the choice. We'll never get away from someone having 100% of the choice, the matter is which one.

Again, it depends on if she doesn't want the baby (ie put it up for adoption), or she wants an abortion. If she want to put the baby up for adoption, then the father should have the choice to keep the baby for himself, or put it up for adoption. If she wants an abortion and he doesn't, then the woman's rights would probably still prevail. I don't think anyone should be "forced" to be a parent (male or female).

The choice should be a right for all, and any increase from 0% choice would be a step in the right direction (no pun intended). But someone has also suggested compensation to the father in such a case. Interesting concept.
 

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Andrew said:
Does anyone know of any "Men's rights" activist groups in Canada? More specifically in Vancouver? There doesn't seem to be an organized effort, but there are many areas which need to be addressed:

1. Men's right to choose (to be a father or not - we are not just sperm donors)
To come or not to come, that is the question

2. Father's rights (divorce and child custody)
Please feel free to take responsibility for your actions at any time.
 

fuzzylogix

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Zzarchov said:
About Midwifery, I noticed this nugget of goldness

"Women should also consider the fact that many women have to transfer to a hospital in the middle of their home birth. Boy, I bet that is comfortable. Wouldn't they rather just be able to stay put in their birthing unit room than transferred in a car or ambulance? "

If they would rather just stay put, they wouldn't be going to a midwife in the first place, and you wouldn't need a law saying they couldn't use one if you worried about what they wanted.

For various religious and cultural, hell even just free choice, I will NEVER support forcing someone to undergo medical treatment they don't want. (which is different from dissallowing someone non-vital medical treatment)

Where would that stop? Forcing Jehovahs Witnesses to accept blood transfusions? keeping people on "DNR's" on life support?

Ah, this is a case in example that you perhaps don't understand the idea of a birthing unit. This is basically an area in a hospital with rooms that are are comfortable and quiet as possible that allow the women to have a natural birth or birth with epidural, with a midwife or with a doctor, with family members or not. Basically it tries to create a "home setting" but by being attached to a hospital has immediate access to medical or surgical care.

Let me make myself clear in case you have misinterpreted me. I am not against midwives, and I am not against women giving birth without anaesthetic, or giving birth with all their kids and the dog around if that is what they want. But do it where there is emergency backup.
 

fuzzylogix

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Andrew said:
Kreskin said:
Zzarch, until men carry the fetus/baby inside them there is no such thing as pregnancy equality. Take away her right to decide is basically slavery. Forced birth is equality? The guy will always have the deciding vote and he's not expected to do anything but watch. I couldn't disagree more.

Of course this is a situation where both parties understand each others position on being a parent (or not) (ie a one night stand is assumed neither wants a baby (unless she is just looking for a sperm donor)). I guess the choices should come down to:

1. They decide to keep the baby
2. They decide to abort the baby
3. They decide to give the baby away for adoption
4. She decides she wants the baby, he decides he doesn't, so she gets the baby and he has no further obligations.
5. she doesn't want an abortion, nor does she want the baby, but he does, so he gets the baby and she has no further obligations.
6. She wants an abortion, he wants the baby, she wins, he falls into a deep depression.

Can you think of any more?

The real issue is, you can't have 0% of the choice, yet still 100% of the accountability.

I agree. And society may have to start addressing these issues with sex contracts that specify these circumstances and the agreed outcomes. Now you may be really chuckling at this, but 50 years ago, the idea of a couple having a marriage contract would have been uproariously funny.
 

Kreskin

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Andrew said:
The loss of their child

What about the loss of the child? What is relevant financially? So if she had a very poor diet and lost the child a guy should expect financial compensation? If this is a math exercise he should owe her because the child would've cost him well over 100k thru to high school grad.
 

fuzzylogix

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Because our society and many societies around the world calculate losses in bucks. If a doctor kills your baby while delivering it, he pays you big bucks. If a bad driver hits your baby and kills it he pays you big bucks.

Doesnt bring baby back, but boy, you get big bucks.

Sucks.
 

Kreskin

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fuzzylogix said:
Because our society and many societies around the world calculate losses in bucks. If a doctor kills your baby while delivering it, he pays you big bucks. If a bad driver hits your baby and kills it he pays you big bucks.

Doesnt bring baby back, but boy, you get big bucks.

Sucks.

Go ahead, make the claim in court. Prove the pain and suffering. Andrew (I believe it was him) said it's okay to use the morning after pill (encouraged it as part of a 3 point plan) but he wants compensation if you wait a couple weeks and have an abortion? Lets see how fast this gets laughed out of court.
 

tracy

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Andrew said:
The only other part of your post I would disagree with is that men don't have the choice on whether to be fathers or not. Men make that decision when you stick your penis in a vagina. End of story as far as I'm concerned. Biology means that's the only time you get to choose.

Sorry Tracy, but that is not a choice. Sex is part of survival. It is like food and water, you need them to live. It takes two to have sex, so why does one person get 100% of the choice and the other person get 0% of the choice? Your logic is flawed.

Sex isn't needed for survival.