I cannot agree on this one JLM. I have, with the rest of my family, sat around the clock with my Dad when he was dying. I was 18 yrs. old. It was hard but it was a time when he needed his family. I've been in the room with a man who was dying and who died - right before my eyes. It's not comfortable, he did not know I was there - just kind of a fluke. I was getting his family to him. I've had to be the bearer of such bad news to my children regarding their Grandparents (3 of their grandparents). It's not comfortable. Lots of life is not. When a member of your family - someone you love - is dying - regardless of how it freaks you out, it is my belief, you have a duty to be there. I also know people who "do not attend funerals" including those of their parents. I do not hold any respect for those kind of people.There are some people who just can't deal with death, but I don't think it makes them any less of a person. Hell, I know people who can't even stomach going to funerals. Some people can't handle the sight of blood. If you can't do you can't do it, nothing to do with selfishness. Just for the record, I've been to quite a few funerals but I've never been in the room with a dying person, so I would never pass judgment on that aspect. :smile:
This topic was about breaking up which, when it comes down to it, is about showing respect for another person's feelings. That's what my whole story is about - showing respect and caring. If you once cared enough to hold someone and be held then you should care enough (in most cases) to respect them enough to tell them face to face that for you, the relationship is over. If it was already a nasty relationship, then you owe them nothing.