@ #it's not u, it's me

VanIsle

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There are some people who just can't deal with death, but I don't think it makes them any less of a person. Hell, I know people who can't even stomach going to funerals. Some people can't handle the sight of blood. If you can't do you can't do it, nothing to do with selfishness. Just for the record, I've been to quite a few funerals but I've never been in the room with a dying person, so I would never pass judgment on that aspect. :smile:
I cannot agree on this one JLM. I have, with the rest of my family, sat around the clock with my Dad when he was dying. I was 18 yrs. old. It was hard but it was a time when he needed his family. I've been in the room with a man who was dying and who died - right before my eyes. It's not comfortable, he did not know I was there - just kind of a fluke. I was getting his family to him. I've had to be the bearer of such bad news to my children regarding their Grandparents (3 of their grandparents). It's not comfortable. Lots of life is not. When a member of your family - someone you love - is dying - regardless of how it freaks you out, it is my belief, you have a duty to be there. I also know people who "do not attend funerals" including those of their parents. I do not hold any respect for those kind of people.
This topic was about breaking up which, when it comes down to it, is about showing respect for another person's feelings. That's what my whole story is about - showing respect and caring. If you once cared enough to hold someone and be held then you should care enough (in most cases) to respect them enough to tell them face to face that for you, the relationship is over. If it was already a nasty relationship, then you owe them nothing.
 

TenPenny

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This topic was about breaking up which, when it comes down to it, is about showing respect for another person's feelings.

For the most part, if you're breaking up with someone, why do you care about their feelings? Half of the time, you're breaking up with them because they've done you wrong, why treat them with any decency in return?
 

Dexter Sinister

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No, it's just a better place to be. If you're breaking up because somebody treated you badly, and you deliberately treat the person badly in return, you've shown yourself to be no better. If you're content with that, fine, I prefer to rise above others' follies. It's about how I feel about myself, not how anybody else feels about me.
 

VanIsle

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For the most part, if you're breaking up with someone, why do you care about their feelings? Half of the time, you're breaking up with them because they've done you wrong, why treat them with any decency in return?
Because TenPenny - Half the time is kind of the point. So if the other half is the guilty party - then face to face is particularly decent. It's a lot easier to be friendly and a little less awkward when you meet up some other time, which usually happens. People fall out of love. No point in hating them for that.
 

shadowshiv

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Is that from a movie? If so, which one?
 

Nuggler

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8O............Men actually "dump" women? !!

I was dumped so often, I figured that was just the way it worked. :sad2:

Kind of bein a man, eh! You get dumped.

We used to call it......................breaking up.

I had it done to me over the phone, in person, by a mutual friend, by her parents (oh shlt, that was bad), by her new boyfriend, her aunt, her gramma............and SHE liked me.8O

So, in a way it was bad, but, I got to meet a lot of women...............yah, and then get dumped......:confused3:.........whatever. Do you think this happens to a lot of guys who just won't admit it??......................................nah!!:roll:

But then, one didn't dump me.

I waited............she was pretty

And waited.............she was smart.

And waited...............she never "looked out the window" when I talked about the future.

That was like 45 years ago. She still hasn't dumped me.

She could...................Any day...................

Could happen.

hope not.:love6:
 

JLM

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For the most part, if you're breaking up with someone, why do you care about their feelings? Half of the time, you're breaking up with them because they've done you wrong, why treat them with any decency in return?

Not everybody is a f*****g jerk, Tenpenny!