The problem with being "pushy" if you are going to do it you have to be prepared to do it for a long time. If you can just be determined in a more laid back manner, you come across as being more credible.
Not when you are trying to get the attention of the society, JLM. To get the attention, you have to be pushy, aggressive, in the face of the society. Indeed, that is how all the minority rights movements started, by being pushy, extreme to attract the attention of the majority. If women had politely, nicely asked for the vote, they may not have got it for several decades. It is when they adopted civil disobedience type of tactics, that their message was heard.
But if the movement remains the fringe movement without becoming moderate, it does not survive.