Help me to understand a canadian man!

[confidence]

[FONT=&quot]I am an european girl, who is keeping contacts through internet with a Canadian boy.
[/FONT] Sometimes I don’t understand him, he is repeating that miss me and think all the time about me, but the other way he can not answer my sms….

All Canadian men are the same? I like his ideas about family, love and happiness, but sometimes don’t understand his ignorance , being a girl, whom men pay attention.
Pls, give me advices how to behave with a canadian man. I am not a stupid girl, but really like him and this make me confused.

 

[VanIsle]

If he has never met you face to face - how can he miss you? I'm sorry but I don't know what you mean when you say he cannot answer your sms. Do you mean he cannot answer your questions? If that is what you mean, what questions? They could really be important. Not all Canadian men are the same and I'm sure not all European men are the same either. People everywhere in every country are different.

 

[Chiliagon]

hey I'll do all he isn't doing!!

I'll respond to all your SMSs..

 

[confidence]

Yes, i didnt meet him yet, but we were chating hours and hours and saw each other through camera and i feel that is a conection between us and he also told me about this. Do you think is strange or unusual if a person repeat all the time that is thinking about smb? Dont want to be indescreet, but i am very goodlooking, and can find a man also here, but i like him and want to be with him.

 

[Chiliagon]

ok on a serious note, I think you're getting a little too worked up about it. He may very well be the kind of guy who needs a little more physical interaction before he commits to it as much as you may have.

just be patient and give him a little breathing room.

 

[karrie]

Canadian men are as varied as any other country's men.

That being said though, the fact that you're reading this much into whether or not he drops everything to answer your text messages doesn't bode well for your relationship. He's probably got a thread going in some European forum somewhere entitled "Are all European girls hyper insecure?"

If you want to understand how to behave with a man whose ideas of family and love you think fit your own, look to your screen name for a clue.

 

[confidence]

Thanks, that your took in consideration my problem, yes, that true that i dont have patient sometimes, i want all or nothing.
Chiliagon, i think that he is man who put feelings on first place and dont think only about sex.

 

[Walter]

Offer him beer and a toque.

 

[Chiliagon]

Thanks, that your took in consideration my problem, yes, that true that i dont have patient sometimes, i want all or nothing.
Chiliagon, i think that he is man who put feelings on first place and dont think only about sex.

good.. but i did mean more as like, meeting in person.. interaction with you.

there is nothing like being a few feet, or in some cases a few inches away from a woman you're attracted to!

 

[confidence]

Chiliagon
yes, maybe i didnt understand your thoughts, but is excusable, because english is not my native language.
To meet him in person is the most desirable wish of mine.

 

[Chiliagon]

from what part of Europe?

 

[talloola]

you can talk on the internet forever, but until you look each other in the eye, spend some quality
time together, read the body language, you can't be sure of anything, and even after that, the fact
that you are of different cultures/countries brings in some interesting differences as well.

The fact that you are attractive automatically turns eyes toward you, I have some knowledge of that feeling,
because when I was very young, I also turned eyes, and that desire to have the opposite sex see beyond that, in
a new relationship is difficult, and the guys are 'first' attracted to the physical
and can fall so in love with the physical, and not pay much attention to anything else till that
wears down a little, the point here is, on the internet the physical appearance, and the words that
fly back and forth are all you have to go on right now, and I wouldn't get all serious about any of that
till much more has happened.
men are men

 

[confidence]

Eastern Europe

 

[Chiliagon]

i see. so do you like your country? do you want to come to Canada?

 

[confidence]

As i said, I am ready to meet him in person and I am not 20 years old girl and have experience in relations with men, though not from abroad.
I was thinking about his atitude towards me and smth is weird, thats why i decided to ask other ppl, especially men from Canada.

Sure, I like my country and my job, but I not exclude the possibility to move in another one. Life i unpredictable.

 

[Chiliagon]

yup.

You must understand that Canadian men are hard to figure out, because they all , well some seem to think that Women are more like prizes and objects rather than another person with feelings and emotions and so on.

 

[AnnaG]

Canadian men are as varied as any other country's men.

That being said though, the fact that you're reading this much into whether or not he drops everything to answer your text messages doesn't bode well for your relationship. He's probably got a thread going in some European forum somewhere entitled "Are all European girls hyper insecure?"

If you want to understand how to behave with a man whose ideas of family and love you think fit your own, look to your screen name for a clue.

... and be careful. There are just as many (or more) predators on the internet as there are outside the computer.

 

[Praxius]

Meeting someone over the internet is certainly not the same thing as meeting someone in person.... even if both are from two different countries.

Sure you can see each other on web cams and texting one another, but there is still a part of knowing one another that is detached..... in other words, you are not getting the entire picture. You might be understanding most of what's going on between the two of you, but neither of you can fully determine how a relationship will work unless you see one another face to face.

And in order to see each other face to face, one of you needs to take the risk of going to see the other...... which can still provide risk to both.

His personality might be different when not communicating behind a computer screen..... your personality might be different.... because when you meet face to face, it makes everything more real.

I am not sure what the term "SMS" or "SMB" stands for, but while he may repeat to you that he's continually missing your presence or wants to talk to you all the time, he might be missing your messages simply due to the time zone differences.... Eastern Europe is around 9-12+ hours ahead of where he may be living in Canada and could be either asleep, or you might be asleep when he can respond and just doesn't wish to wake or disturb your sleep.

Quite honestly, there could be many reasons, but in your first post above, were you trying to say that he has a difficult time with you being quite attractive and that you get attention from others besides him? Him not responding to your communications could be out of jealousy or being upset that you may be starting to be more interested in guys who are more obtainable..... in other words, guys who are closer and easier to visit then himself.

It sounds like he may not have the highest self esteem out there and may be trying to feel guilty to himself that he may not be good enough for you.

May I ask how old you two are? I do not need to know your entire lives, but I think an age would help clarify some frames of mind in this subject.

 

[AnnaG]

yup.

You must understand that Canadian men are hard to figure out, because they all , well some seem to think that Women are more like prizes and objects rather than another person with feelings and emotions and so on.

I'm glad you switched that to "some" because they aren't all teenagers nor do they all act like teenagers.
I think what Prax was saying is that there can be no "chemistry" between you until you meet face to face, but you seem like you already know that.

 

[Praxius]

yup.

You must understand that Canadian men are hard to figure out, because they all , well some seem to think that Women are more like prizes and objects rather than another person with feelings and emotions and so on.

Um..... stick with Some.... as I do not fit the above identification.