I'm sorry for the loss of your husband.
I'm glad to hear that you are doing better now, and hopefully you'll be able to make lots of posts here.
With regards to the Friend request, all you have to do is click on 'Alerts'. You should see a message stating that 'shadowshiv has sent you a Friend request.' Once you click on that, you should get a message asking if you accept or not. Click on the affirmative and it will add me to your Friend list.