UK Orders Victim To Be Pen Pals With Abuser

[tay]

In 2011, Natalie Allman survived a brutal attack by her then-boyfriend Jason Hughes. After Allman broke up with the father of her children, Hughes broke into her home beat her with dumbbells, smothered her with a pillow, and slit her throat. The attack lasted for seven hours before Allman was able to alert the authorities.




Now a court has ordered Allman to send three letters a year to Hughes, updating him on the lives of their now five-year-old sons. She was also ordered to send up-to-date photographs of the twins. The order was made under Britain's parental rights law and if Allman doesn't comply, "she will be in contempt of court - and could be imprisoned."


In turn, Hughes has been granted permission to send the boys letters, which are mailed to Allman's father's house so that Hughes won't know where she lives. She has also been ordered to save Hughes' letters in case the twins want to read them when they are older.


"We are the victims, not him. I thought he was going to kill me that night for no reason and my boys saw that," Allman said. "I'm so angry that the law still defends his parental rights and that he is still being allowed to control us from behind bars."




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[Sal]

Now a court has ordered Allman to send three letters a year to Hughes, updating him on the lives of their now five-year-old sons. She was also ordered to send up-to-date photographs of the twins. The order was made under Britain's parental rights law and if Allman doesn't comply, "she will be in contempt of court - and could be imprisoned."

and will he be supporting said children because if not, charge me with contempt of court because I am not going to comply with the directive and I will fight the directive but I am not sending pictures and letters to someone who attempted to murder me and left his children covered in my blood

 

[gerryh]

only in Great Britain you say? Thank God for that.

 

[Dixie Cup]

I can't even describe how I feel about this decision. I'm numb! How can this be? Where is the logic?


Simply Unbelievable!


JMHO

 

[Sal]

I can't even describe how I feel about this decision. I'm numb! How can this be? Where is the logic?


Simply Unbelievable!


JMHO

yes it is isn't it

the logic is, the child has the right to know their parent, regardless of what or who that parent is

the logic breaks down when one realizes the parent was already a danger to the child and thus a child's right to safety should come first...someone didn't think this through

 

[Blackleaf]

Great decision. Children should always be in contact with both parents if possible.

 

[Cannuck]

Grate Brittain is such a silly place. No wonder so many Brittish people want to get out and come to Canada.

 

[Dixie Cup]

Great decision. Children should always be in contact with both parents if possible.

Under "normal" circumstances, absolutely.


But this is far from "normal" and taking things too far. Common sense dictates that this is the most stupidest decision anyone could have come up with. Stupid, Stupid, Stupid and lazy in that they're not taking (it seems) the circumstances of his imprisonment into consideration and the effect the whole mess has on the children.


JMNO

 

[Blackleaf]

Common sense dictates that this is the most stupidest decision anyone could have come up with.

What? Allowing a father and his kids to be in contact with one another?

Britain has a parental rights law.

 

[DaSleeper]

Grate Brittain is such a silly place. No wonder so many Brittish people want to get out and come to Canada.

Here is a silly song for you the silly guy

 

[Blackleaf]

Yep. They're all here today.

 

[Cannuck]

Yep. They're all here today.

You're not actually here yet. How are your emigration plans going? Where do you think your destination is going to be? I think you would fit in quite nicely in Saanich.

 

[Blackleaf]

How are your emigration plans going?

I'm not planning on emigrating. Who says that I was?

 

[Cannuck]

I'm not planning on emigrating. Who says that I was?

Of course you are. Why else would you spend so much time on a Canadian forum? Victoria would definitely be a good fit for you but I doubt you could afford to live there. Saanich or maybe even farther north in Sydney would probably work for you.