I find this to be a sensitive issue for me as to what is fair. There is a difference between
justice and revenge. There is the fact that she was not .08 and by the way, 08 is still the
national version of impaired and the present law will be challenged at some point we can
count on that. That issue is another story however. The other part of this story is also
about the person who hit the little girl and killed her. All the things we think we have the
right to do ends when something like this happens. It impacts the family losing a loved
one, If the child is physically damaged for life it brings on a whole different set of challenges.
At the same time is really impacts the person that did the deed drunk or not.
Oh I know I am a bleeding heart and the person should be, well, you know what so often
happens, when people are angry.
The difference is, I do understand the family that lost that little girl, I understand the family
extended family feelings and how they are mixed with hurt and anger. I also know the over
all impact for the person who hit the child and their family.
I know this because I lost my brother to a drunk driver, it damaged our family with things
that were never spoken about in our family, and only now after our parents are both gone,
are we starting to talk about it. I found out that the man who hit and killed my brother while
being drunk, died within a year, as he could never get over what he had done, his family
ended up dealing with the tragedy like everyone else. The family were not guilty of anything
except the husband and their dad killed someone.
I have had the problem visited upon us twice actually, we have a grandson who was 8 at the
time struck by a drunk driver taking a short cut back to work, through a playground. My
grandson did the right things. He stopped and looked out around the parked vehicle, and the
drunk was over the white line, struck him and threw him 50 feet and he landed on his head.
For weeks we didn't even know if he would make it. Today he is crippled, but he has his
mental faculties. He will never be alright. After nearly 7 years there has been a financial
settlement but that does not give him his normal life back.
In the second case, the driver was drunk, he had a suspended license and no insurance.
In all of this there were others who illegally parked vehicles and they were also sued because
they ignored repeated warnings and tickets not to park in that restricted area. so the child will
get the money though a trustee.
The other fact here is that the man who did this lost his family and his family lost everything
they had and it impacted his children who were not guilty of anything.
It is so easy to comment, but for those who are impacted the feeling is something I hope none
of you ever have to experience. Yes i had all those feelings, rage anger, hatred, and sadness
but it really doesn't do much for anyone. And remember, the one person goes to jail and
deals with the shame. all the families have to live with the fallout forever. It is not fun.