If the child tells a teacher to F off, there is something that can be done.
First you take all the things the child is interested in at school, you remind them of
how much they enjoy those things. From there you also make the point they would
not know anything about those interesting things if it hadn't of been for a teacher
who introduced them to subjects of interest. I also remind my younger ones, that
in order to gain respect from others, children or adults, you have to behave in a
respectful manner. I also ask,, the teacher you are in conflict with, have they ever
taught you something really interesting. have they ever challenged you to do something much better than ever before? Almost always the answer is yes, therefore
you owe that teacher an apology.
Finally address the f off word. I always ask them why they chose that word, not that
it doesn't' have shock value, or it prompts an instant response. Swearing in that manner under those circumstances happens when you don't have words of more
value and impact. It also demonstrates why they should be in school, because they
have a limited vocabulary. This is a learning experience because it brings to life
that the teacher is a real person just like them. Just because you have a different
opinion, doesn't mean you have to be disrespectful, as the original disagreement
is still there to be dealt with, and now you have a problem with someone who has
all the power, and the final say, don't put yourself in the position of setting up your
own defeat. You get more flies with honey than with vinegar. Usually the teacher
and one of my young charges sort out their own solutions without using violence
These things work themselves out..