Quote: Originally Posted by kiwi_NZ
Why is it that women can understand men better than men can understand women?
I don't think that's true. What women know about men is about as much as men know about women. I think the real issue is that each expects the other to be more like themselves than they are, and serious disputes arise when they discover that's not true and they have to figure out what adjustments are necessary and who's going to make them.
What about the woman confuses you most?
Two things. First, they seem incapable of not talking if there's anyone within hearing distance, even when there's nothing to say. Second, I have yet to meet a woman who knows that understanding does not imply agreement. A lot of men don't get that one either, but the number's not zero, as it seems to be with the women in my life. "You don't understand." "Yes I do, but I think you're wrong." That exchange does not compute in the female minds I've encountered.
For those guys in a relationship with a woman, what do you do to keep her happy?
I don't feel responsible for her happiness, and she's not responsible for mine either. I try to avoid making her unhappy, but I'm not going to hold back on doing or saying something that might make her unhappy if it's important enough to me. Some things, probably most things actually, aren't worth fighting about, and after 30 years together we rarely argue about anything. But some things certainly are worth fighting about. The other option is to turn into a doormat. Trying to keep somebody else happy is a fool's game, can't be done except as a complete self-sacrifice, and it won't work anyway.