
Today they have so many choices compared to what we had growing up - As the old saying goes - we made our own fun.

Yes. Back to square one, how did you choose when you were brainwashed?

Tonington
I suggest a family get-together with creating a budget for things which are not as necessary to life as food, clothing, cleaning products, repairs, general upkeep of household, etc. All those things we try to
ignore but know we have to put aside some funds eventually.
There is no "too early" age for a child to learn budgets - even a small one when the weekly grocery list is being made and choices for special treats can include the children - or outings can also be part of this list to keep the child engaged.
There can be a list for clothing - "necessary" and "fun".... and even when parents are discussing the need to buy a new washer or even a car - age-appropriate information can be discussed with the kids so they undeerstand financial limitations and lifestyle.
There can always be room for "surprise" stuff at birthday or holiday celebrations but all children need to understand the family does not run on air - and it takes ...... hours of work for the parents to pay for whatever necessities they will need.
If there are bits of money left over such as quarters or even a dollar or two....add some fun to the mix with a bag of treats or cookies - something to make the kids feel it isn't all horrible planning... but they need to be aware of finances within their family so they appreciate new treats, clothes and gifts when they receive them.
As a child I was never taught about money handling and as a single working girl I was always broke and borrowing from my sisters or brother or parents. My husband finally taught me the ropes in my late twenties because as he was away from home a great deal in the military it was up to me to keep the house running and paying bills on time.
At the time I realized how little I knew I was embarrassed and felt in perhaps protecting me, my parents had created a problem for themselves and me - in that I never understood about budgeting. It's a gift for kids to be part of the financial
issues too - even at the weekly grocery list level....

At the time I realized how little I knew I was embarrassed and felt in perhaps protecting me, my parents had created a problem for themselves and me - in that I never understood about budgeting. It's a gift for kids to be part of the financial
issues too - even at the weekly grocery list level....

Ah Tonington you even write that note about her with love in your heart
Nobody is perfect - she's probably not **** about a lot of rituals you take for granted like the light issue - but on the other hand she could be the opposite and want to tidy a newspaper before anyone has finished reading all the sections - or dusting around you when you are relaxing watching the tube....

She's **** about the formation of paper and textbooks that surround her. They all have a place, and if I come along and move one of them it throws her off. That's just her learning style. Can't really think off hand of anything she's **** about when it comes to tidying and housework. Really I'm the **** one.

I think the new generation is very smart, but they are not balanced, and therefore cannot mature properly yet. there is a nice blog post about the topic here :
Ten Million Slaves: New Generation of kids..
In my opinion people in the west have been educated worse and worse, but when i see my friends kids, i realize they have the potential to be smarter than any previous generation

Smart is some ways and dumber than a bag a hammers on many. We, meaning many of us grew up have a paper route, shoveling snow and other ways to make money to buy what we wanted. Now we see high income offering - if you do this i will buy that.
I remember arriving in St Albert in the spring of 96 - Wife was waiting till end on school year in NB.
So i looked at housing etc and shopped around.
We had a meeting with our real estate agent as my wife had come out in early late Apr -May -
A bunch of teenagers came in to the place where were were having coffee - and each and everyone had on clothes that i could not afford to buy my self or for my daughter - leather coats that went then for about 700 $ at that time, I knew because i was looking them over in the stores - driving cars their parents bought and they were new cars -
I think we missed out on many values to teach this generation.
And I completely disagree with this common statement we hear - Older people gripe about younger generation as not being polite etc.
This is not he case today as we see behavior that is completely off the scale of basic common decency. We see teenagers - 18 -20 that cannot think a problem though -
Then the same with 20-25 or 30 year olds that need to stay at home because they quit school and cannot find a job that permits them to live on their own.
I think in some cases and i am only describing some cases that we stole their ability to think for themselves, be responsible and think, really think about what is next in life.
Lastly - Alberta does have a fine educational system - and if the school cannot teach them do what we did - Hire a tutor.
We gave the material and set to the side the other important parts of maturing

She still leaves the lights on when she leaves a room...drives me bonkers! I was cooking, ironing, doing laundry, before I hit junior high! Well, the ironing I think was after junior high, started doing lots of that when I went into Air Cadets.
She's actually really good about spending money wisely. So that's not a great big land mine to deal with. It's more of the domestic load that she's not so good for, but getting better.

VEry well written post Goober and very accurate.
At my advanced age I recently started thinking about some of the stuff you've mentioned in a little different way. You can only do one thing at a time (properly that is) whether it's flicking a light switch or building a piano, so while doing that particular thing I concentrate on doing it right. It doesn't take much longer than doing it wrong.

I get a tad upset when some idiot starts talking about Multi-Tasking - The brain is unable to Multi-Task -