Okay.
Here is the tale.
My very best friend died last July. We were closer than brothers, and had been that way for uncomfortably close to 50 years. I knew him better than anyone on earth, much better, and that includes his two wives.
This may seem unbelieveable, but this was a man blessed with incredible sexual magnetism. Women threw themselves at him. He told me once he had never made a pass at a woman, they all initiated with him......and he usually had two or three going at the same time. All very attractive. As an aside, it was amusing as he approached sixty.....suddenly women no longer treated him like men treat very attractive young women.....and he simply didn't understand why women had suddenly gotten so rude.
Anyway, this started when he was 14, and caught the eye of a 30-something married woman...........suddenly he was disappearing from our group regularly for an hour or two without explanation. Many years later he told me she approached him, struck up conversation, invited him in, told him she didn't want to scare him, but wanted to do something for him.........and went to her knees. His first......and it continued for months.
Then he proceeded to have regular after-school tutoring sessions with his Grade Nine English teacher.
In high school, his Grade Ten English teacher.
What is it with English teachers?
At 16, a 30-something bartender, he and I hung out at her house constantly.
This along with an absolute line-up of ladies his own age.
I asked him once if he considered himself abused.
He looked at me, shocked, and them burst into laughter. "Privileged, not abused"
Soooooooo, go easy on the torches and pitchforks.
I hope I've gained enough credibility here over the years that you believe this, because it is the absolute truth,
We're all anonymous on this forum, so my policy is to accept a claim as true until it's proved otherwise unless to do so could harm me in some way. On that basis, I have no reason to believe that your claim is false. However, that is but one person. I'm sure that somewhere on earth one woman or another had a similar experience with men as your friend did with women and never felt abused by those men. Do we then wave the obligation on men to obtain consent because one woman enjoyed the experience? In like manner, do we wave the obligation on every woman to obtain consent because one man enjoyed the experience?
Sexual assault is sexual assault regardless of the sex of the perpetrator and regardless of the sex of the victim.
