But frankly karrie, I don't think you are going to change. But I urge you to give your child a chance to make up his own mind when he becomes old enough to do so. That means, don't fill his head with ideas which he will be totally incapable of discarding later on in life. That's all I am going to say to you on the subject of childhood impressions and imprinting of same.
I think if a child was brought up in a household that told a child 'This is what life is', then I'd agree with your hypothesis. But you have no idea how we discuss religion in our home. You have no idea how it is presented to our children, and, if the church itself presents something, how it is duscussed at home and how we talk to our kids about it. Perhaps the key for my family was always being able to argue what we were being told by the church. When mass was ended, and we had a half hour in the vehicle to drive home, we would debate what had been discussed, and we were never disallowed an opinion, even if it flew in the face of what the priest had said. It made it simple for my siblings and I to find our own way in the world, our own truths and our own ideas. You notion that my children will be incapable of choosing for themselves down the road is simply not a convincing one. And I'm glad that you will say no more on the subject, as I suspect we would simply keep talking in circles.