Hey man, some folks zig, some folks zag. Whatever floats your boat.
You can zig and zag anyway you like, I respectfully don't care. However, when you claim that a chemically induced altered state is actually creating intimacy, I would suggest that you need to review your definition of intimacy and perhaps even visit a relationship counselor. To be clear, I am not saying there is anything wrong with your relationship. That would be rude, I don't even know you. My point is all about the definition of intimacy. Not to be confused with drug induced experiences.