Knowing Yourself
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Okay Curio now that you know yourself are ya going start helping the rest of us whom seek the truth find it? I am what I am, I know my weakness, my faults, my anger, my humour. The core elements that make me Moi, and like Jim the older I get the more a pattern seems to arise. As long as that pattern of behavior isn't akin to my Mothers, I'll be fine. I hope.
Haha Sassy
Those feared words all women finally yell: "I have become my mother!"
Thing is love yourself - even what you consider your faults - because they are you. Unique you.
Those feared words all women finally yell: "I have become my mother!"
Thing is love yourself - even what you consider your faults - because they are you. Unique you.
Curio you trying to pick a fight with me? Faults what faults I'm bloody perfect, even with a box of tissue tied around my neck I'm still perfect. Achoo, sorry about that sneeze Curio.
Oh now you've gone and done it you blonde @#$#$ing but let me tell ya something about @##$sifnsafjaskda. Spew, that was a mouthful, I bet her ears are ringing.
It's this cold and the thought of swallowing Buckleys it makes me mean. My cheeks are so swollen I look like I'm from Hollywood after my cheek implants, big old round red apples under my eyes. Wait where did my eyes go? Botox is next.
Woah. Testify SISTER.
I know myself well enough. I've tried to change the bad and destructive side, but old habits die hard. Or do they?
Said1 :I know myself well enough. I've tried to change the bad and destructive side, but old habits die hard. Or do they?---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Well , I don't think it,s a question of ending a habit, but perhaps of seeing totally the structure of habit. You have to observe how habits are formed and how, by denying or resisting one habit, another habit is created. What matters is to be totally conscious of habit; for then, as you will see for yourself there is no longer the formation of habit. To resist habit, to fight it, to deny it, only gives continuity to habit. When you fight a particular habit you give life to that habit, and then the very fighting of it becomes a further habit. But if you are simply aware of the whole structure of habit without resistance, then you will find there is freedom from habit, and in that freedom a new thing takes place.A shallow mind clings to habit. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment - attentive to what it is saying, attentive to the movement of its hands, of its thoughts, of its feelings - will discover that the formation of further habits has come to an end. I think it is very important to understand, because as long as the mind is breaking down one habit, and in that very process creating another, it can obviously never be free; and it is only the free mind that can perceive something beyond itself.......Your Self.
Well , I don't think it,s a question of ending a habit, but perhaps of seeing totally the structure of habit. You have to observe how habits are formed and how, by denying or resisting one habit, another habit is created. What matters is to be totally conscious of habit; for then, as you will see for yourself there is no longer the formation of habit. To resist habit, to fight it, to deny it, only gives continuity to habit. When you fight a particular habit you give life to that habit, and then the very fighting of it becomes a further habit. But if you are simply aware of the whole structure of habit without resistance, then you will find there is freedom from habit, and in that freedom a new thing takes place.A shallow mind clings to habit. A mind that is attentive from moment to moment - attentive to what it is saying, attentive to the movement of its hands, of its thoughts, of its feelings - will discover that the formation of further habits has come to an end. I think it is very important to understand, because as long as the mind is breaking down one habit, and in that very process creating another, it can obviously never be free; and it is only the free mind that can perceive something beyond itself.......Your Self.
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Yes. Falling back on old patterns can give a strange sense of security. Everyone loves the familiar, even if a crisis must be created.....out of thin air.......self induced anxiety; for example. Thank you doctor.
And pls send a self-addressed envelope with your bill.
Said1:And pls send a self-addressed envelope with your bill
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Said 1:No Thanks, Obviously I don't want to invite a bad habit into my life.lol
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Said 1:No Thanks, Obviously I don't want to invite a bad habit into my life.lol
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MikeyDB
Tweaky question haha!
Socially unacceptable habits (picking nose) are not really bad habits - but can become unconscious action which may offend others who get to see it happen ick.
Bad habits in my opinion are actions taken or deeds done with "expectation" of something in return - monetary reward, comfort, friendship, love, indebtedness from another, competitive edge.....etc.
When one refines these methods of behaviour they do become bad habits because the rewards are stimulating and give us a feeling of either comfort or power. (Oh lookie - I got into my old habit of Canadian spelling of "behavior").
This is not a habit but a learned response and certainly not "bad".
Addictive stimulants of one kind or other are also called "bad habits" in our society - but they are more than just habits - and have the ability to transfer our personal power away from ourselves to the addiction which then runs our life. (Like ice cream!)
Tweaky question haha!
Socially unacceptable habits (picking nose) are not really bad habits - but can become unconscious action which may offend others who get to see it happen ick.
Bad habits in my opinion are actions taken or deeds done with "expectation" of something in return - monetary reward, comfort, friendship, love, indebtedness from another, competitive edge.....etc.
When one refines these methods of behaviour they do become bad habits because the rewards are stimulating and give us a feeling of either comfort or power. (Oh lookie - I got into my old habit of Canadian spelling of "behavior").
This is not a habit but a learned response and certainly not "bad".
Addictive stimulants of one kind or other are also called "bad habits" in our society - but they are more than just habits - and have the ability to transfer our personal power away from ourselves to the addiction which then runs our life. (Like ice cream!)
Thanks Curiosity
I think I've got it...
Using situations or circumstances to manipulate through emotional blackmail ...that kind of thing...
"If you don't do what I want then I (will do something you don't like..won't do something you want...will blame you for my discomfort/suffering/unfulfilled neediness....) these kinds of things ...yes?
I thought that was marriage?
I think I've got it...
Using situations or circumstances to manipulate through emotional blackmail ...that kind of thing...
"If you don't do what I want then I (will do something you don't like..won't do something you want...will blame you for my discomfort/suffering/unfulfilled neediness....) these kinds of things ...yes?
I thought that was marriage?
MikeyDB
Thank you - I wish I could say so much as you do - in fewer words as you do!!!
Emotional blackmail would head that list for sure! That's a game we humans have honed to perfection.
Thank you - I wish I could say so much as you do - in fewer words as you do!!!
Emotional blackmail would head that list for sure! That's a game we humans have honed to perfection.
It's ok fellas.....
I think nature intended men to be polygamous - you are merely fighting mother nature.
I think nature intended men to be polygamous - you are merely fighting mother nature.