If there's a knife in your child's hand, it's in your hands to stop it.
Kids face all sorts of pressures and it may be that your child is in contact with friends who carry knives. The chances are your child has talked about knives with friends or heard a story about the kid who carried a knife. Whilst many young people do not carry knives – it is still a conversation worth having with your child.
You have a role to play in helping your child make the right choice on this subject. If there is one person your child will listen to, it’s you. They respect you more than you think.
These pages hold practical advice for parents/ carers on what they can do to reduce the likelihood of a child carrying a knife. We aim to give some pointers on what to look for, how to raise the subject and who to contact if you need more help.
As part of this campaign we have talked to a lot of young people about knives. We have also interviewed some young people who felt they needed to carry knives but then decided against it. To give you an idea of some of the issues young people face we have written up some true case studies. Below Ian, 16, talks of his hopes for the future and how the love and respect he has for his mum has guided him.
Case Study
'When my mum sits down and speaks to me, even if I don’t tell her stuff, it makes me think.'
I am seventeen next month and I ask myself, if things keep going this way, where will I be in a few years time? What will happen to me? I will be dead.
I have had a gun pointed at me, blades pulled on me and mates have been killed on the street. You feel it’s not safe if you are not carrying – people don’t understand, it’s not a choice, it’s a way of life in the area we live in.
I was in the cells for the second time and things changed for me - it was seeing the pain on my mum’s face. The worst thing you can do to your mum is let her see you in the cells.
Your mum is always there, you can talk to her – we have fights, we argue – but we will never say we hate each other. It’s the love my mum has for me that has inspired me. If she can make it legit, why can’t I?
I have started working with a construction company I’m on a training course that will take me through to being an apprentice.
I still have my brothers [friends] and they look out for me but I don’t want any part of the bad stuff anymore.
Mums need to take time, one to one with their kid – without going off on one and shouting. A mum should be like ‘I am not here to fight you’, I can help. Try to get the kid on a course or show them there are other choices and ways to make it legit. When my mum sits down and speaks to me, even if I don’t tell her stuff, it helps make me think, think twice about getting into that stuff.
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