Gay bar settles human rights complaint with woman

[Praxius]

lol.... these gyms weren't started because the women who go there think the men will drool over them or maul them. These gyms were started because these women think that men will think...." ugly old bags, nobody would have wanted to look at them anyways."

Hey I only dish out attitude when it's given.... I wouldn't have taken a shot at them if they didn't give me crap for just simply sitting and waiting for my ex to shell her money out to them. But either way, regardless of the attitudes they gave me, I sat there emotionless and still like I normally do, waiting to leave. I don't stare or gock at people as I know how that makes people feel.... yet there they were, doing it to me.... and I wasn't even in speedos.

I wish sometimes that men could see some of the mockery out of shape women get in a traditional gym. Some of the rude **** that gets yelled at fat women who have the nerve to try to get out walking for their health. It would probably be enough to make you feel like crawling into a private gym too Prax, where you don't feel mocked.

And you don't think I haven't had years of mocking and insults thrown at me throughout my life? Hell I still do. Being taller then the average male, 28 and still have acne like a 16 year old, in shape, but still have some sagging skin here and there..... people need to suck it up and get over themselves. I didn't make a stab at them being out of shape, or for going to a gym in the first place.

Ugly old bags was in reference to them being older then I and having an attitude younger then I. If you're going to act like stuck up and immature children, then you get labeled Ugly old bag, because your attitude is ugly. I honestly don't even remember what they look like, nor do I care.

I know I'm no spring chicken or male model, and I know not everybody likes me, or how I look.... heck I'm even sure many will throw their comments back and forth in a negative manner about me behind my back... I couldn't care less, cuz I sure as hell can't please everybody in the world. I take them as they come..... but when it comes to giving you a negative atmosphere for just sitting in one spot and minding your own business is pathetic..... they might as well go back to 1956 and give some black people some dirty looks for eating in the same resturant as them, because it wasn't much different... only in a sexist manner.

Hell my ex even told me they were commenting to her about me being there.... like fk, grow the hell up.

If gays and women etc. want to be treated equally, then they best drop this whole "Now you can feel like how women/gays felt for so long" attitude. I wasn't alive back then to give people racist, homophobic or sexist slurs to their mothers or fathers, I don't do it today, and I sure as hell don't need the attitude dished back at me for no good reason other then to make them feel all righteous about themselves.... it's pathetic. You want equality, then act like it.

Same goes with these gay guys in the original topic.... you want equality and to be able to eat in peace in other resturants, then don't treat those different from you differently.... treat them equally as if they were as gay as you or as much of a woman as you, and you'll see people are not always arsepuckers.

 

[Praxius]

I think it's awesome when women don't care. But, the ones who do are often so crippled by self consciousness that they don't dare go out and do anything that might earn them mockery. I'm one of them. My mom is one of them. It's hit the point that my mom won't walk without a man, because she's been yelled at twice this year, to 'get her fat ass out of public'. So tell me that woman doesn't deserve a gym where she can work out without some jackass passing judgement on her worthiness to be seen?

I was going to say that perhaps those women who are so crippled by their apperances need to get therapy, but that might have come off offensive to you since you categorized yourself in that situation.

The people who yell out those things should be charged with harrasment and to be shown that that sort of attitude is no longer accepted, nor tollerated. Allowing them to shout those things and nothing being done about it, except the victim becoming more recluse and trying to find places to hide to do what they please is only making their goals become sucess, by affecting your life.

It doesn't matter how fat or how skinny, or how ugly or how pretty you are... you will always have someone yell something out at you at one time or another that takes your self-esteme down a notch. Understanding that you're not the only one who gets treated this way is the first step.

Most tell me that I'm somewhat above average in attractiveness and that I'm not all that fat (like I used to be) I sort of see what they mean, but I've never been given positive comments or compliments for the majority of my life until recently, so I don't easily accept those compliments and figure they're just building up for an insult, so I just shrug it off just like any other positive/negative comment. Like many other people out there, I see my imperfections and I am my own worst critic. When someone takes a shot at one or two of the things I notice about myself on a daily basis, it'll take you down a level and make your day pretty ****ty.... it's human nature and conditioning. Those people insulting you or your mom on the street most likely do it to plenty of other people walking down the street.

Eventually those people will get their heads slammed into the sidewalk for running their mouths.... but regardless, overweight people get yelled some nasty insults..... skinny people get yelled to go eat something, or something along the lines of them puking their food up, etc..... attractive people who dress to make themselves feel good can be yelled that they look like a prostitute and how much an hour.... there's insults for everyone, for every shape, size, colour, race and sexual preference.....

 

[Praxius]

Oh and by the way.... although I don't remember any of the faces of the women who were there when I was given the crappy looks.... I do remember that not one of them seemed overweight to me.

 

[Zzarchov]

It also depends on (sub?) culture.

For instance, amongst me and my closest friends (male and female) it would be seen incredibley akward and uncomfortable to give a pure compliment in any normal circumstances (ie, if there hasn't been a great tragedy or a great accomplishment), while the more creative and debilitating insults are met with warm approval all around (including the target, be it me or anyone else).

Where as some of my professional collegues...acting in that kind of way would result in shocked faces, akward silences and hurt feelings.

The rambling point is some people just don't know manners. I blame a society that preaches so heavily against violent reprisals. I've found in cultures where a slap to the face is an acceptable response to calling someone "a fat bitch", fewer people say such things to strangers.