Well, you know, I think we'll just have to agree to disagree ross. I'll always believe that what a singer decides to do with his body/hair, etc is none of our business and I certainly won't stop thinking it or commenting about it if the context is right.
missaddicted, I wasn't suggesting you stop thinking or commenting about anything. It just seemed to me you were trying to narrow the discussion, based on your ideas of what is "our business." And I really think that's subjective. It seemed like you were suggesting certain things should be off limits. If you didn't mean that, I guess I assumed wrong.
Of course you should feel free to comment on what you
think is none of our business. (And I'll feel free to decide for myself what I think my business is, I guess.)
I personally don't think that what musician/performers look like is important and it certainly isn't for me.
I think you're in the minority on this. Elvis, Mick Jagger, Backstreet Boys, whoever.
Not just all about the music. I don't think it matters whether they were popular on radio first. Pop and rock always have been about a combination of looks, fashion, music.
I think perhaps what bothers you is, like, say, when Cook fans act like they
own him, in the sense of: "
He has no right to get a tattoo!-- He never consulted me!" If so, we actually agree. Like if Kris wants to get a tattoo, it's literally none of my business and I don't
really care. Just like, if I want to get a tattoo, it's none of
his business.
I think you feel this issue very strongly, and maybe (?) you over-react when someone is just
commenting on this stuff? Because I can't see how commenting on stuff and offering an opinion constitutes trying to
mind the business of the other person.
So, I don't have an opinion on Kris getting a tattoo, it just doesn't matter to me. I wanted to understand why it mattered for some people, not only in your case, but in the case of a lot of people different fandoms. That's why I said it was an honest question, it wasn't meant to be snarky or anything, I was curious.
I know, I didn't think you were being snarky. I don't know the answer. It's like a gut reaction. Like, Daughtry fans might say, "I'm disappointed he grew his hair." I think this is being overanalyzed, because it seems like
everyone has an opinion about this stuff, and it's not unusual. I never heard anyone seriously say it's not our business, before you, so I guess I don't know how to react to that.
Again, I never said that I didn't want you to react to it, I wanted you to explain your reaction to me, because I just don't really understand it, that's it. It's not a big deal, or I didn't think it was, I just wanted to understand something that somewhat bothers me about fandom.
Yeah, I don't get why it bothers you, I guess. My reaction was based on curiosity and fascination. When you get to that point, you feel you identify with the person. Maybe I didn't think he was the type to get tattooed, and I admired him for that, and so now I'm disappointed. I don't know. I don't think that's it, but it's one possibility.
You don't really know the person. But, of course, you form ideas about what they're like. Then you have to constantly revise these ideas. I think this is called adjusting your worldview.
missadicted, I think you're sometimes saying, overall (in a lot of your posts), that it really is wrong, or a little sick, to identify strongly, as a fan, with a performer. I don't really know if I agree with this. I think it's harmless, in most cases, and it makes people feel good, and it makes them feel less lonely, maybe.