personal baggage
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mmmmkaaay ... I'm the official genitle inspector ... please line up to the right ... and for gawds sake, keep it outta the sunshine while I'm looking!
I haven't read all the thread yet, just wondering if you were burying them lads or lassies what broke into yer van???
I tol ya, backhoe, backhoe............din i din i ???
Nuggle (the)
OK, I just got on here and am really disturbed to see this thread.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with what Tri posted and there was nothing illegal in anything she did. My God, she was asking for help and through the thread, she received some excellent advice, which, I might add, she would not have received if she had never posted. By being able to post, Tri was able to get her frustrations out and receive help.
This is a public forum. I am sorry that some people are upset by personal issues but life is personal so deal with it. Not everyone has had a rosy life. Sometimes it is easier to tell personal stuff to faceless friends than to people we actually know. Being able to talk with a group of people and get ideas is what we call 'brainstorming' and that is how the best ideas are actually brought forth.
Everyday we read or hear about tragedies that could probably have been prevented if the people involved had had someone with whom they could have talked. That someone does not have to be a psychiatrist or even a personal friend since not everyone is comfortable with disclosing intimate details to them. How horribly sad it is when we hear about these tragedies and think "If only..."
Tri has written about so many other things than just her personal issues. I would think that most of you should know her well enough by now to realize that she was just asking for help with a difficult situation.
P.S. That being said, I will add a personal note for Tri. If you are going to argue with a mod, do it in private. As a teacher, nothing got my back up more than someone who wanted to argue in public. I was a much better listener in private.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with what Tri posted and there was nothing illegal in anything she did. My God, she was asking for help and through the thread, she received some excellent advice, which, I might add, she would not have received if she had never posted. By being able to post, Tri was able to get her frustrations out and receive help.
This is a public forum. I am sorry that some people are upset by personal issues but life is personal so deal with it. Not everyone has had a rosy life. Sometimes it is easier to tell personal stuff to faceless friends than to people we actually know. Being able to talk with a group of people and get ideas is what we call 'brainstorming' and that is how the best ideas are actually brought forth.
Everyday we read or hear about tragedies that could probably have been prevented if the people involved had had someone with whom they could have talked. That someone does not have to be a psychiatrist or even a personal friend since not everyone is comfortable with disclosing intimate details to them. How horribly sad it is when we hear about these tragedies and think "If only..."
Tri has written about so many other things than just her personal issues. I would think that most of you should know her well enough by now to realize that she was just asking for help with a difficult situation.
P.S. That being said, I will add a personal note for Tri. If you are going to argue with a mod, do it in private. As a teacher, nothing got my back up more than someone who wanted to argue in public. I was a much better listener in private.
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I and the staff here feel nothing but compassion for the difficulties being discussed here by triedit. Please make no mistake about that.
At the risk of sounding aloof, I feel I should just mention one thing that may help you understand why the staff have come to this decision.
This is primarily a political site. How many of you have really taken a good look at the rest of this site? If you haven't I encourage you to do so. Not only will you find a wealth of information, you will perhaps better understand the vision that has always been held in mind for this discussion board.
Over time, a collection of people who originally gathered here to discuss Canada and political issues have created an online family. It's understandable that the discussions would become not only more personal, but much more diverse in their content.
At some point though, certain discussions go far beyond the realm of what we consider the 'intent' of this board. We hope to attract the majority of our hits from content that is related to the site. If enough threads discussing intensely personal issues are generated here, eventually we're going to have a huge influx of people looking to resolve or discuss personal issues, rather than those seeking political discussion.
There are, I'm sure a host of sites that are dedicated to the sole theme of challenges in child rearing that delve into the kind of detail that is sought here.
Within the past year, I needed some medical care. I had concerns. I did not bring those concerns here, where the bulk of people gather to exchange at least some discourse on political issues. I found a forum related specifically to the issue I was dealing with, and joined there. I received wonderful support and accurate advice, links and resources.
Let this be the place you gather for your entertainment and debating needs. Seek the expertise and likemindedness from forums that will cater to those specific needs.
This is my opinion only - I am not speaking on behalf of any other staff at CC.
At the risk of sounding aloof, I feel I should just mention one thing that may help you understand why the staff have come to this decision.
This is primarily a political site. How many of you have really taken a good look at the rest of this site? If you haven't I encourage you to do so. Not only will you find a wealth of information, you will perhaps better understand the vision that has always been held in mind for this discussion board.
Over time, a collection of people who originally gathered here to discuss Canada and political issues have created an online family. It's understandable that the discussions would become not only more personal, but much more diverse in their content.
At some point though, certain discussions go far beyond the realm of what we consider the 'intent' of this board. We hope to attract the majority of our hits from content that is related to the site. If enough threads discussing intensely personal issues are generated here, eventually we're going to have a huge influx of people looking to resolve or discuss personal issues, rather than those seeking political discussion.
There are, I'm sure a host of sites that are dedicated to the sole theme of challenges in child rearing that delve into the kind of detail that is sought here.
Within the past year, I needed some medical care. I had concerns. I did not bring those concerns here, where the bulk of people gather to exchange at least some discourse on political issues. I found a forum related specifically to the issue I was dealing with, and joined there. I received wonderful support and accurate advice, links and resources.
Let this be the place you gather for your entertainment and debating needs. Seek the expertise and likemindedness from forums that will cater to those specific needs.
This is my opinion only - I am not speaking on behalf of any other staff at CC.
I know, I know!! I was being cheap, and since I needed a concrete pad for the hot tub ANYway, I figured, why not!? It was ill advised. For future advice on where to hide the bodies, I will seek you out Nuggler. My back has learned it's lesson. Always seek the Nuggler.
So, back to politics it is ... how many zeros was that?
So in theory, perhaps it would be more acceptable to raise the issue of spanking laws in Canada, and then - while discussing the justice of the law - bring up the topic of becoming frustrated with children and occasionally crossing the line.
So in theory, perhaps it would be more acceptable to raise the issue of spanking laws in Canada, and then - while discussing the justice of the law - bring up the topic of becoming frustrated with children and occasionally crossing the line.
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Partially correct. Admitting to "crossing the line" is against the rules. Im told it puts Andem in an uncomfortable legal position. Best to stick with complaints about our beef being too tough and our kidding about goats.
OK Triedit, what will it take to get you to drop this? It's enough already. You've managed to involve a whole pack of people and create a huge drama. What do you need from me? Permission to post your intimate life details? Have at it. The PM was more for your well being than ours. Folks can simply put you on ignore if they find it uncomfortable.
Oh, and you can stop sending reports on every post. I get it. Fill yer boots. It is not that big a deal to me if you put your and your family in jeopardy. Just restrict it to your own stuff.
Oh, and you can stop sending reports on every post. I get it. Fill yer boots. It is not that big a deal to me if you put your and your family in jeopardy. Just restrict it to your own stuff.
Within the context of discussing Canadian law, it's probably not too difficult to think of examples where the law needs to be modified or at least debated. The real debate surrounding the spanking law was in 2004, leading up to the Supreme Courts decision. Prior to that, people punished children with belts. In fact, I had a friend (daughter of a serious bible thumper) that was beaten with a belt ... even as a child, I was stunned.