Has feminism gone too far?

[White_Unifier]

Contrary to polular belief, women can and do sexually coerce men far more frequently that people realize:

Men's Reactions to Female Sexual Coercion | Psychiatric Times

Women batter their husbands almost at the same rate as men batter their wives:

https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/domestic-violence/battered-men-battered-husbands-its-no-joke/

I'm sure most if not all here have come across posters of the 'don't-Be-That-Man' campaign educating men against sexually assaulting women, yet never have I ever come across a 'don't-be-that-person' or 'Don't-be-that-woman' campaign.

Domestic-abuse programs generally discriminate against male victims based on the Duluth model that essentially presumes that the man is always the perpetrator and the woman always the victim:

http://saveservices.org/pdf/SAVE-VAWA-Discriminates-Against-Males.pdf

I've even read of cases of a woman coercing a man into sex and then accusing him of sexual assault, essentially making it a case of the assailant accusing the victim.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that we need to stop caring about female victims of abuse; only that we need to start to care more about male victims. Your thoughts on this?

 

[Curious Cdn]

Contrary to polular belief, women can and do sexually coerce men far more frequently that people realize:

So, that razor-sharp switchblade pointed at my scrotum with a cheery "Get it up or lose it!" wasn't unique?

 

[Danbones]

the guy was probably just drunk

 

[White_Unifier]

So, that razor-sharp switchblade pointed at my scrotum with a cheery "Get it up or lose it!" wasn't unique?

If you're a man, then you probably already know at least some of the following whether you've actually given it any thought or not:

1. A man can have an erection without any arousal. A classic example of that is morning wood, when you wake up in the morning with an erection that just won't go away even when sex is the farthest thing from your mind. Another example is when you have an erection as you are standing in front of a group giving a presentation. very embarrassing.

2. A man can ejaculate without wanting or planning to. I'm sure you've heard or read one of the many stories of a man who orgasmed when a woman kissed him.

3. A man can also be particularly aroused when being sexually assaulted by a woman, meaning that if he's caught by surprise, he mght have no more than three seconds to react before he ejaculates.

4. Physical strength alone does not suffice to prevent sexual assault. for example, imagine a man consenting to protected sex but not unprotected sex. Since he's already consented to protected sex, he might quite willingly remove his clothes, lay back, and close his eyes trusting that the woman will put a condom on him. If she suddenly mounts him without a condom, his first reaction might be to open his eyes and look to confirm that what he believes just happened actually did just happen. He might then lower his bum into the bed to get his penis our of her vagina. She could adapt within a fraction of a second simply by dropping lower. He might raise his bum again to prepare to push her off but might first assess the risk of causing her head to hit a piece of furniture or the floor should he push her off aggressively. It might seem strange that he'd consider her safety under such circumstances, but it can be human nature. For that matter, a woman being raped could hesitate in the same way should she get hold of a knife or firearm. Again, it's human nature that a person will hesitate to hurt another person attacking him when he's not used to it and so is taken in surprised and undergoes mental shock at the situation. Given that some men, like some women, can react with extreme arousal during a sexual assault, confirming what just happened and is happening, assessing the situation, determining a plan of action, and assessing the pros and cons of each plan could take at least a few seconds. If he's particularly aroused and ejaculates within three seconds, his mind might just might not have enough time to process what just happened, what's happening, and plan a course of action before it's too late.

5. Contrary to popular belief, sexual coercion does not necessarily require physical force. It can involve blackmail and many forms of mental manipulation.

6. Though men might need more time to acknowledge the psychological and emotional impact of a sexual assault than women do, it can still affect them just as much.


7. That a woman is sexually attractive will not eliminate the mental impact of rape by much any more than a man's sexual attractiveness will make it much easier for a woman to handle it.

the guy was probably just drunk

What guy? I have read cases of women mounting men who'd been passed out. In fact, I remember reading one case of a woman who committed sexual acts with a man in public while he was passed out and out of embarrassment accused him of raping her. Lucky for him, it was done in public.