That is called empathy, countryboy. There is no need to explain our laws to them, they already know our laws. As to customs, they don’t have to follow our customs, they can form their own customs, sometimes even import the customs from their country, provided the customs don’t break any of our laws (arranged marriage is a good example).
However, first generation immigrants (especially from Indian subcontinent) are used to arranged marriages. Their marriage was arranged by their parents, their friends, relatives, acquaintances etc. everybody’s marriage was arranged by their parents. No doubt they were looking forward to arranging the marriage of their son.
Instead of that, not only their son arranges his own marriage, but he marries a Bengali. In some respect, Bengali culture would be as alien to them as say, Ukrainian culture.
It was time to show some empathy. Again, they have to follow our laws, if they had tried to forbid the banns, I would not have supported them in that. However, once they decided not to oppose the marriage, it was perfectly legitimate to point out to them that the difference in culture, language, food etc., that they were worried about was nothing compared to if he had married a white girl or a man. That is making them more comfortable. I am not supporting them in breaking any laws, I am simply comforting them by pointing out that it could have been worse (as they saw it).
I wonder what things would be like if you went to these extreme lengths to try and accommodate all those who don't share your views on things - like other not-so-new Canadians. We have a number of different "cultures" in Canada, not all of which are in favour of gay marriage (for example)...
Are people born in Canada not entitled to the same level of tender loving care that you extended to these folks from India?
By the way, I'd love to meet those folks you mentioned, as they already know our laws. Maybe they could explain a few of them to me. :lol: