OK, I have a really good friend who I generally get along with very well. I've even let her move into the second bedroom of my apartment because she's been going through a tough time. She's usually a nice, smart, independent, funny, good natured person. She has a lot of qualities I admire.
Now... when she's around her boyfriend, I want to smack her. It's like she turns into this needy, obsessive 14 year old girl. I was fine with him staying here when he was in town and he seemed like a nice guy to me. For the week before he came I had to listen to her obsess about him (maybe we aren't right for eachother, I mean he hasn't even called me today, don't you think your boyfriend should call you everyday? Shouldn't I be a lot more excited he's coming considering it's early in the relationship, shouldn't he just blow off everything else to come down and be with me?...). Then when he was here for 10 days, she never said a single good thing about him (he's boring, he's controlling, he's got no sense of humour, he's a know it all, he's cheap, he doesn't dress well, he's selfish, the sex isn't even good...). They'd even start bickering right in front of me and our other friends. It was SO awkward, but I bit my tongue. Then they broke up and I told her I was glad because she doesn't seem to even like him. Another friend of ours said the same thing and she'd only been around them for about 5 hours. Well.... yesterday she wakes me up in the middle of the day to tell me she's flying up to see him and will be back late that night.
Now, she's a grown woman and I have no intention of sticking my nose in her business. She can date whoever she wants. But, would it make me a bad friend if I told her I didn't want to hear about it or be around them? I've already banned him from staying in the apartment the next time he comes down.
Now... when she's around her boyfriend, I want to smack her. It's like she turns into this needy, obsessive 14 year old girl. I was fine with him staying here when he was in town and he seemed like a nice guy to me. For the week before he came I had to listen to her obsess about him (maybe we aren't right for eachother, I mean he hasn't even called me today, don't you think your boyfriend should call you everyday? Shouldn't I be a lot more excited he's coming considering it's early in the relationship, shouldn't he just blow off everything else to come down and be with me?...). Then when he was here for 10 days, she never said a single good thing about him (he's boring, he's controlling, he's got no sense of humour, he's a know it all, he's cheap, he doesn't dress well, he's selfish, the sex isn't even good...). They'd even start bickering right in front of me and our other friends. It was SO awkward, but I bit my tongue. Then they broke up and I told her I was glad because she doesn't seem to even like him. Another friend of ours said the same thing and she'd only been around them for about 5 hours. Well.... yesterday she wakes me up in the middle of the day to tell me she's flying up to see him and will be back late that night.
Now, she's a grown woman and I have no intention of sticking my nose in her business. She can date whoever she wants. But, would it make me a bad friend if I told her I didn't want to hear about it or be around them? I've already banned him from staying in the apartment the next time he comes down.