If you had something to say about their marriage, you should have done so at that time...... actually you should have done it a long time ago and raised your children to hold the same values towards relationships and marriage as you do so that they'd get into a relationship/marriage for similar reasons as you did.
But I guess it doesn't work that way and it's your children's own fault for making the mistakes they did in life that you never did.
Or does your parenting end when they reach adulthood?
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but I do see some conflict in what you just posted.
The problem with situations like the above is that when you're looking in from the outside, you never truly know if everything was hunky dory and happy or if it was truly the best thing for the kids..... just as you don't know if they ever had flings on the side..... all you see if the image they put out there for the community when they step out the door..... just like everybody else does.
In theory and from your limited perspective that you see when they're out in public, it seems like a good idea....... but behind closed doors, after an extended period of time trying to keep the act going for the children and for everybody else around them, and based on my own experience as the child in such a situation...... the reality is quite different.
I support NDP.... what more proof do you need
Yep, that's right. there are so many problems behind those closed doors, and somehow thru the generations
we have all created all of those problems, why can't life just be simpler, guess it's because we have so
much and want so much, and of course when one partner is abusive or impossible, that is the selfish parent,
and visa versa, it takes two parents who are 'not' packing baggage, or selfish desires of their own, that
they consider over and obove the importance of the marriage.
It is very very hard. Over the generations we have done that. And that's too bad, there are so many
broken homes, that it seems we should tear up the plans, and design a new method of family life, because
the one we have now doesn't seem to work.
there are a multi million stories, and a millions of heartbreaks, and a million lonely partners, who have been left
behind, because their partners want to move on, a million reasons why they should part.
us parents can set the best examples we can find, doesn't guarantee anything, and sometimes as in my
childhood it was the opposite that set my mind, because I didn't ever want to live like my parents did,
so I didn't.
I am sympathetic and compassionite person, I understand all of the problems that arise within a marriage,
and I don't want to see anyone suffer inside of a marriage.
Of course there are holes in what I said, because what I suggested is impossible, just wishfull thinking I
guess.
I've just seen too much over the years, and my reaction when young people announce a marriage has become
'dull', as I see all of their plans for the future, but 'I' can't see their future any longer, and I just
see a few years together, a couple of kids, then 'bye bye charlie', see ya.
When young people find out how many years I have been married, they almost fall over dead.
Not sure what my paranting has done to create problems in my daughters marriages, as it is far too
complex to just say I didn't do 'this' or 'that', maybe I should have been an alchoholic like my dad,
or a sad and battered mom like mine was, then maybe they would have had more success.
is that how it works?
What I did do was raise them to be very independent, and that independence takes them a long way, on
their own, and they will not be intimidated by anyone, and demand pure equality, and most men are not
ready for real equality, just a bit of equality.
oh I know, I should have known the fear of the lord, and instilled that in my daughters, so that they
would have never ended any of their 'bad' marriages, for fear of the lord.
I just said that to get back on topic. lol
I think it will go back the other way. The new age of person is becoming more enlightened. I think people will recognize the importance of the family and move back towards that. Religion is on the outs though. People don't need other people controlling them in institutions.
maybe you're right