Yet the Dr. in the OP is 'out to lunch'?
"varying degrees of ADD/ADHD and my wife has ADD."
Not assuming anything, if they aren't maybe they should be. You aren't and that is proof that all who should be aren't. I'm even taking a sedative because of a big blast of mold a few months ago. It improves the lives of the ones I have to deal with that are in denial.