Stalking

L Gilbert
#1
Just outta curiosity, has anyone here ever experienced a stalker?
 
talloola
#2
I haven't actually experienced a stalker, but I have had the experience of someone trying to
attack me on the street. I was 15 yrs. old, walking home about 9:30 p.m., and a man was walking toward me, I kept far over to my side of the sidewalk, but as we began to pass each
other he stepped right in front of me, actually touching me with his body, and said "You aren't
going to give me any trouble are you",and I immediately heard a deafening scream coming from
somewhere, and realized it was 'me', and he immediately darted away under a tree and began
running down the side street, and I of course ran like a deer home, which was only 1/2 block
away. Didn't know I had that scream in me, now I do, thanks to instinct, I guess I saved myself.
 
Zzz
#3
My girlfriend experienced that.
 
El Barto
#4
No ,never even experience stalkings.
 
sanctus
#5
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

Just outta curiosity, has anyone here ever experienced a stalker?


Yes, twice. First parish I had this young man, who was of, shall we say, a different sexual persuasion, became enamoured with me. He would pop up most places I was, by "accident". Drove my wife nuts, he called the house a million times a day and was at the church more than I was

He was quite clever at talking to the parish sec and getting from Mary a general idea of my schedule.

I knew it had gone too far when he popped up one day at the hospital I was visiting people at and waltzed himself into a room where I was giving Last Rites.

We had to get the police involved to get him to go away, and even after that he sent me a long tear-filled letter professing love and devotion. Totally a creepy experience.
 
L Gilbert
#6
Hmmmm.
I was curious becase I think I may have picked one up. Don't wanna go into any detail because if I haven't picked one up I don't want to risk offending the critter any further than it thinks I have now. " No wut Ah meen, Vern?" - Ermest P. Worrell (Jim Varney)
At any rate, I'm hardly alarmed, but I do keep remembering "Play Misty For Me" (old movie).
 
s243a
#7
Stalking is a pretty generic word and the media and movies only talk about the worst offenders. How many girls say in high shcool don't go find out a whole bunch of stuff about the guy they like.
 
L Gilbert
#8
Good point. I think the definition of stalking has to be very acute. Girls with crushes doing that isn't something I'd define as stalking.
 
s243a
#9
One thing I find dangerous is the attitude in the media about the recent school shootings is that their might have been something that could of been done to prevent this. How are we going to prevent this? Are we going to lock up everyone we think is odd? The only thing I think might be remotely reasonable is for it to be harder for people like him to by a gun.
 
folcar
#10
One thing I find dangerous is the attitude in the media about the recent school shootings is that their might have been something that could of been done to prevent this. How are we going to prevent this? Are we going to lock up everyone we think is odd? The only thing I think might be remotely reasonable is for it to be harder for people like him to by a gun.

The best solution i have come up with is to have a plan in place and perhaps an alarm system similar to the fire alarm in schools, When sounded all classes lock there doors and get away from the windows and doors. If they are ground floor they evacuate immediatly (after ensuring the outside is clear of hostiles with a visual check) from a window, upper floor class rooms could be equiped with a fire ladder (which would have the added benefit of a fire escape) so students and teachers there could evacuate as well. Such a system would aid in these events by locking down a school and letting everyone know instantly there is a threat, if the shooters access is limited so should be the damage they can inflict. Police responders should also enter immediatly and engage as quickly as possible, in all of these instances so far when the shooter has unarmed students as targets they are quite bold in there insanity. When confronted with trained and armed police they seem to loose some of that resolve, seems when someone can shoot back it is alot less appealing to continue the rampage.
 
L Gilbert
#11
Well, maybe the States it'd be worthwhile. Really tough to implement but, worthwhile. In Canada it isn't that easy to get a handgun.
 
L Gilbert
#12
Quote: Originally Posted by folcarView Post

The best solution i have come up with is to have a plan in place and perhaps an alarm system similar to the fire alarm in schools, When sounded all classes lock there doors and get away from the windows and doors. If they are ground floor they evacuate immediatly (after ensuring the outside is clear of hostiles with a visual check) from a window, upper floor class rooms could be equiped with a fire ladder (which would have the added benefit of a fire escape) ............

Good idea. Evac chutes at the windows (like they have on aircraft) would be better than ladders, though. Speed is of the essence. (Besides that, they are kinda fun )
 
folcar
#13
Good idea. Evac chutes at the windows (like they have on aircraft) would be better than ladders, though. Speed is of the essence. (Besides that, they are kinda fun )

Very true and that would empty a room of 30 pretty quick.
Last edited by folcar; Apr 18th, 2007 at 03:33 PM..Reason: hewkd on fonacs
 
talloola
#14
Isn't there some way for a loud alarm to go off, if a gun crosses a certain line, entering the school.
When he walked throught the door into the school with those two guns, isn't there a way for that
to immediately signal someone, after all of the shootings in the U.S., I would think, just preventing
guns from getting into the school period, would be constructive. Surely the right to bear arms
musn't include public buildings of any sort. A policemen's gun could have a special 'chip' or
something implanted in their guns to prevent alarms, I don't know, it just makes one speechless
in disbelief that such horrible things can happen.
And today, of course, 170 people killed in senseless car bombings, in Bagdad, and 190 injured. Lets all
back up here, and think very very hard and long about the 'errors' over the last few years, and
make sure they don't happen again. VOTE 'SMART' NEXT TIME. (maybe a good name for a political party). Guess I'm getting off topic here, so I'm off.
 
talloola
#15
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

Hmmmm.
I was curious becase I think I may have picked one up. Don't wanna go into any detail because if I haven't picked one up I don't want to risk offending the critter any further than it thinks I have now. " No wut Ah meen, Vern?" - Ermest P. Worrell (Jim Varney)
At any rate, I'm hardly alarmed, but I do keep remembering "Play Misty For Me" (old movie).

Such a scary movie, I will never forget it, I think her name was Evelyn in the movie, and
after that when we saw any woman who was very 'unlikeable', (for lack of better word),
we would call her Evelyn, when referring to her.
 
Libra Girl
#16
Stalking is an insidious crime, and can alter the victim's perception of safety, and sometimes makes her/him become obsessively reclusive, and worse, afraid of mere acquaintance, which limits their life socially, sometimes to extremes... afraid to open their mail/email, to open the door, even to the mailman ,walk to the store, walk the dog, putting sturdy locks on interior doors, even to question invites as to whom will be present. It can start seemingly innocently, and can take weeks or months before the victim realises what is actually happening.
 
eh1eh
#17
I know! Give everyone handguns that would cut back on stalkers and school shootings would be over in a snap.
 
Doryman
#18
Quote: Originally Posted by eh1ehView Post

I know! Give everyone handguns that would cut back on stalkers and school shootings would be over in a snap.

Or restrict handguns as much as possible and end gun crimes... like in Jane and Finch...


I'd confront the person and tell them to ...fudge off, in a voice that brooked no argument. You may end up looking like the crazy one, but it should keep them away.
 
selfactivated
#19
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

Just outta curiosity, has anyone here ever experienced a stalker?

yes.
 
Toro
#20
Before I met her, my wife did.

Its scary what she told me. I'd f****** kill the guy without hesitation if he was threatening her today.

And the great thing about Florida is that no jury would convict me!
 
L Gilbert
#21
Quote: Originally Posted by DorymanView Post

Or restrict handguns as much as possible and end gun crimes... like in Jane and Finch...

Handguns are restricted in Canada. It's quite difficult to acquire one legally. Eliminating firearms will not eliminate firearm crime. Ban the citizens from having firearms and only the criminals will have them. Besides that you'd be making farmers, ranchers, target shooters, etc. criminals because to the mentioned types of citizens, firearms are tools, not weapons and there a quite a few who would not give their firearms up.
 
L Gilbert
#22
Quote: Originally Posted by eh1ehView Post

I know! Give everyone handguns that would cut back on stalkers and school shootings would be over in a snap.

What if the stalker refused confrontation and harassed you overtly, eg, leaving email messages, telling stories about you, etc.
 
talloola
#23
If everyone was allowed handguns, there would be many domestic deaths, whether by accident
by children, or by violence. There would many deaths by people with guns, who use them in
a panic, or just, who can shoot first, like the old west, as, if the criminal knows the victim has a
gun, the actual use of the guns would rise considerably, whereas, if it's only the criminal with the
gun, it might just be used as a warning, and not fired. Ridiculous, just look at the stats which
give the UK figures then the U.S. figures, the U.S. is in big trouble because of their stupid gun laws, easy to know what's best. Two wrongs don't make
a right.
 
s243a
#24
Quote: Originally Posted by talloolaView Post

If everyone was allowed handguns, there would be many domestic deaths, whether by accident
by children, or by violence. There would many deaths by people with guns, who use them in
a panic, or just, who can shoot first, like the old west, as, if the criminal knows the victim has a
gun, the actual use of the guns would rise considerably, whereas, if it's only the criminal with the
gun, it might just be used as a warning, and not fired. Ridiculous, just look at the stats which
give the UK figures then the U.S. figures, the U.S. is in big trouble because of their stupid gun laws, easy to know what's best. Two wrongs don't make
a right.


It looks like your right:

www.nationmaster.com/graph/cr...ers-per-capita (external - login to view)
www.guncontrol.ca/Content/Cda-US.htm (external - login to view)
 
karrie
#25
Quote: Originally Posted by L GilbertView Post

I may have picked one up. Don't wanna go into any detail because if I haven't picked one up I don't want to risk offending the critter any further than it thinks I have now.

I can't believe you'd think I'm stalking you. Sure, I call your house and hang up five times a night. Sure, I've been PM'ing everyone on cancon to tell them I'm pregnant with your child. But I'd hardly call that STALKING. Sheesh.
 
El Barto
#26
Quote: Originally Posted by karrieView Post

I can't believe you'd think I'm stalking you. Sure, I call your house and hang up five times a night. Sure, I've been PM'ing everyone on cancon to tell them I'm pregnant with your child. But I'd hardly call that STALKING. Sheesh.

Everyday I see you getting closer to the darkside Karrie.
 
sanctus
#27
Quote: Originally Posted by karrieView Post

I can't believe you'd think I'm stalking you. Sure, I call your house and hang up five times a night. Sure, I've been PM'ing everyone on cancon to tell them I'm pregnant with your child. But I'd hardly call that STALKING. Sheesh.

That's not stalking, that's just...uhmmm...having fun???
 
karrie
#28
Well ElBarto, if you believe what some say on here about the athiests, falling so head over heels in love with Gilbert would be like courting the devil, so I can see where the darkside would come in. lol.

And sanctus, you've got it so right... innocent fun! There's nothing wrong with hiding in the bushes outside of Gilbert's house, taking pictures of his living room window. It's all just for hoots and giggles! If he wants to delude himself into believing that me joining cancon after months of watching him, sorting through his garbage to find out who his internet is through, and finally hacking his ISP, is really stalking, well, then who's the crazy one!? Huh!? Huh!?
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In all seriousness Gilbert, I hope you get it sorted out. I've been cyber harassed before, and it is not fun.
 
kashmyre
#29
Unless you have been in the situation of being stalked there is no way to describe the fear and anxiety that it produces. I was stalked by an ex for a couple of years. Even now thinking about it causes the old fight or flight response. This guy was arrested on my parents front lawn at gunpoint for cryin' out loud (nope, didn't stop him). And now, almost 20 years later, a friend tells me he STILL knows where I am! (and I have since moved 140k away.) Now that is scary.
 
sanctus
#30
Quote: Originally Posted by kashmyreView Post

Unless you have been in the situation of being stalked there is no way to describe the fear and anxiety that it produces. I was stalked by an ex for a couple of years. Even now thinking about it causes the old fight or flight response. This guy was arrested on my parents front lawn at gunpoint for cryin' out loud (nope, didn't stop him). And now, almost 20 years later, a friend tells me he STILL knows where I am! (and I have since moved 140k away.) Now that is scary.


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I find it very difficult to read your posts because of how small the font is
 

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